I Got Upset With My Boyfriend For Not Including Me In His Plans

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I Got Upset With My Boyfriend For Not Including Me In His PlansYour boyfriend may not have included you in his plans because he wanted to spend this occasion with his friends or with himself.

If he has been spending a majority of his free time with you since you started dating, he may have now reached the point where he wants to do something for himself or with his friends.

There is nothing wrong with this.

In fact, this is very healthy for a relationship.

One of the biggest mistakes that a lot of girls make when they have a boyfriend is they begin to want to manage and be a part of all his time.

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They want to either always be there or stay in contact via phone or social media while the boyfriend may be away from them.

This can become very stifling for your boyfriend.

He may love or care about you but he also does want to have his time.

He was an individual before he met you.

He had hobbies, friends, ambitions, etc.

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All of those elements didn’t disappear once he met you. You shouldn’t want them to disappear.

You should want your boyfriend to feel like he can live his life without feeling like he always has to include you in everything.

You should want your boyfriend to be happy being himself and knowing that he is free to be so.

When he sees you as a person that is there to help him and enable him to grow as a person rather than impede him, he will want to be an even better boyfriend to you.

If he didn’t include you in his plans this time around, take everything I just said into account.

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It can be very easy to believe that as his girlfriend you should always be included in his plans.

After all, you are his girlfriend.

However, you are his girlfriend, not his shadow.

You are there to love and care for him as he is for you, not to make him feel trapped.

This is typically what leads some boyfriends to become less willing to hang out with there girlfriends.

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They begin to feel that pressure from the girlfriend to have to always be there with them.

These moments of despair can easily lead a guy to start looking elsewhere or become a very inattentive boyfriend.

This isn’t something you should want.

If your boyfriend has always spent quality time with you, he has been a good boyfriend to you so far.

If he has made plans and hasn’t included you this time around, don’t let that bother you.

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Judge him by how good of a boyfriend he has been to you up until this point and not by your desire for him to have included you in his current plans.

Now, if he hasn’t been a good boyfriend up until this point and has barely spent any time with you, this is a different story.

He may not truly enjoy being with you and this is a problem.

In this scenario, you should have a talk with him and find out where his heart truly lies.

010By Luke Iwuji, a dating coach and founder of DatingLogic.net. For the best professional dating or relationship advice, Book a Session with me.