There are guys in college who want relationships and guys who don’t.
It all depends on which guys you are associating yourself with. You will have to heed the choices you make in who you choose to talk to.
You have control over the kind of guys that you interact with in college irrespective of the kind of guys that your friends like to hang out with.
If you are constantly meeting guys who don’t seem to want to have a relationship and just want to party and have fun with as many girls as possible all the time, you may need to change the kind of guys you are around.
If you tend to be around guys in your college that are constantly partying, that is the kind of guy that you most likely will get.
He is young and free.
This may be his first time away from home depending on what year of college he is.
He may want to just have all the fun that this newly found freedom can give him.
When you keep meeting the same guys in the same partying environment, you will keep getting the same results.
You will keep meeting guys who may not actually want relationships and may just want to have fun with as many girls as they can hook up with.
You need to change where you tend to meet guys.
There are guys in college who are interested in other things.
They may party from time to time but they tend to fight for a particular course that is dear to them or they pursue other interests that may further their future careers.
These are the guys you will find at the library studying on a regular basis or as part of an organization that stands for something that they are passionate about.
These are the guys that may write in the college newspaper.
These are the guys that may be part of a governing student body that listens to students concerns and gives them advice on how to make their college experience worthwhile.
These are the guys you may notice being teacher assistants at your college classes or resident assistants at the dorms.
There are all kinds of guys at college.
There are the guys who mostly care about partying and hooking up with lots of girls and the guys who are more involved in activities that will further their college experience in a professional and beneficial manner.
You have to start trying these other guys that are about more than just partying.
They may not initially seem as exciting and robust as the regular party-going guys, but they still have substance.
If you are always drawn to the frat boys who are always partying and having girls over, you will keep getting the same result in finding it hard to get relationships.
It doesn’t mean that the the frat boy can’t be that committed guy in a relationship.
It will just be harder for you to find him in this bunch.
The guy who parties way too often is a lot less likely to give you want you want as far as relationships go.
Open up your social circle and start meeting different kinds of guys in college.
You just have to open your eyes and take notice.
Once you are able to do this, you will realize that you have a whole lot more choices in potential dates than you realized.
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