Why Would She Get Mad That I Didn’t Wish Her A Happy Birthday When We Aren’t In A Relationship?

Why Would She Get Mad That I Didn't Wish Her A Happy Birthday When We Aren't In A Relationship?She may have gotten mad that you didn’t wish her a happy birthday because she has romantic feelings for you and was hurt that you didn’t remember her birthday.

You may believe that this shouldn’t be a big deal. After all, you are not in a relationship with her.

However, girls often use a period of casual dating as a testing ground for how the guy they are casually dating would be as a boyfriend.

She isn’t just casually dating you without any thought. She is doing it for a reason.

Often, the reason is that she is testing you out. She is observing what you say and do and trying to interpret what that says about you.

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How would you act as a boyfriend? How would you treat her as a girlfriend?


These are questions she has in her head the longer your casual relationship goes on.

In your mind, you may believe that what you have with her is light and commitment-free. However, the longer you are in this kind of relationship with her, the more likely she will begin to judge your actions based on what she would want you to do as a boyfriend.

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She would become more attached and expectant. This is what typically happens when casual relationships go beyond the one night stand and enter into weeks or months of hook ups. Feelings will inevitably begin to develop.


This is partly what makes human beings affectionate creatures. Human beings are not robots. A person can only go so far with someone else before they begin to develop some kind of feelings. This may be what this girl is going through.

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She may be hurt that you didn’t wish her a happy birthday because she is already looking at you as a possible future boyfriend. She may have already fantasized about how it would be. She may already feel like she knows you.


Now that you haven’t wished her a happy birthday she is upset that you have ruined that dream. You may have ruined what she thought she had with you as far as feelings go.

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Girls want to feel wanted and desired.

They want to know that they are special and be reminded of this on a regular basis.


This is often shown through affection, compliments and attention.

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She likes to feel confident in the fact that you care. This makes her feel special and wanted.


When you don’t wish her a happy birthday, she doesn’t feel special. She doesn’t feel like you care. She doesn’t feel like she is being paid the right kind of attention that she deserves.

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You may not be in a relationship with her, but she doesn’t see it that way. She sees you as a very likely partner in the near future and you have just disappointed her.


This is most likely what she is thinking and how she is reacting to what you have just done.

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She may have gotten a happy birthday wish from everyone else in her life who cares about her except you.

This is what could disappoint her greatly and make her feel hurt. She wants the attention and you didn’t give it.


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  1. This is very spot on. I like a guy from church. He seems to like me (or so he acts and or so everyone says), but of course his actions say otherwise. So I’ve been very doubtful to buy into it. His birthday was in May and I took this opportunity to strike up conversation with him and ask him what he did for his birthday. This seemed to kind of open up more chatter between us as we now have each other phone numbers. He knows my birthday and he has been informed that birthdays are very important to me, however my birthday which has come and gone passed without so much as a fb greeting. Keep in mind we are of a certain age (not teens, not even 20 somethings, but nearly 40 year old adults). It is a huge disappointment, because it is something I’ve made clear is of importance to me. No, he is not my man or boyfriend, however if he does indeed like me like that, I’m actually turned off now by the fact he failed to remember something so little yet so big in my eyes. I could even forgive him getting busy and remembering a day or so later and then saying happy birthday because I’m mature enough to make allowances for life happening. If this was an audition/tryout he failed miserably. So sad and dissappointing really.

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