To get a guy to show interest in you again, you must first try to determine why he lost interest in you in the first place.
This is very important.
If you can’t determine why he lost interest in you in the first place, you may make the same mistake again.
Now, this isn’t always about having made a mistake.
You truly may not have done anything particularly wrong.
It may simply have been a case of him realizing that you don’t share the same opinion about something in particular.
If this is the case, you didn’t do anything wrong.
You stated your genuine opinion about something and he simply didn’t agree with it.
You shouldn’t want to change yourself just so that you can make him like you more and show interest in you again.
This is a mistake that some people make.
In their desperate attempt to get someone to show interest in them again, they begin to act in a certain way or say things that they believe that person would like to hear.
Unfortunately, they aren’t being themselves.
As a result, even if they were to get into a relationship with this guy, he will ultimately discover that they were being dishonest about themselves.
This would only lead to more heartache for you because by this point you may be really emotionally invested in the relationship.
After all, you did all this just to try to get this guy to show interest in you again.
Hence, the emotional sense of loss and disappointment you will feel when this guy finds out that you weren’t being true to yourself will be a lot worse than what you are feeling now.
This is the slippery slope.
You shouldn’t want to change yourself to become who he wants.
This wouldn’t be you.
Now, you may have caused him to lose interest in you because you were playing hard to get or hot and cold.
Obviously, you would have to immediately stop this kind of behavior.
You may have simply taken it too far.
Perhaps he was into it at first but realized that you weren’t getting serious and decided to stop trying.
If this is the case, you will have to start using your body language to show him that you are truly interested.
Make eye contact with him as often as you can and smile.
Touch his arm from time to time and look into his eyes as you speak to him.
This creates a connection between you that could lead to conversation.
Ask him open ended questions that are designed to learn more about him.
Try to relate to what he says and give him accounts of your own similar personal experiences.
Give him compliments when they are appropriate.
Ask him about his plans for the future and what he hopes to achieve.
Make him laugh as often as you can.
Don’t be afraid to be self-deprecating.
In other words, don’t take yourself too seriously.
Don’t be afraid to make fun of yourself in a lighthearted way in order to show him that you have humility.
These are a few ways that you can get him to show interest in you again.
However, above everything else, always be yourself.
This is the person that you would want any guy to know. You would want them to get to know the true you.
So be that.
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