If you have been sleeping with your roommate and want to end it, you should do so now before things begin to get out of hand and out of control.
The longer you sleep with your roommate, the more likely your roommate or even yourself will begin to develop deeper feelings for each other.
If you are at a place in your life right now where you aren’t ready for this, you need to stop sleeping with your roommate.
Your roommate will most likely ask you why you want to stop.
Try not to be tempted to get into the details.
This may make you doubt your decision even more and your roommate may be able to give you rebuttals that will make you rethink your decision.
Clearly, you want to end this for a reason.
You have come to this realization and it tends to be at the forefront of your thoughts from day to day.
Don’t ignore what you are feeling.
It is for a reason.
You are worried about something or you are simply not willing to keep going with this.
Regardless, there is a clear desire on your part to stop what you have been doing.
Listen to your instincts.
This is when it can really come to your aid.
Perhaps you started sleeping with your roommate because it felt convenient at the time.
Perhaps it was because you were simply wanting sex and to meet that need.
Perhaps you had just gotten out of a relationship with your ex and your roommate was someone you used to help fill the void in order for you to feel better about yourself.
Perhaps you started sleeping with your roommate because you may have believed that there would be a chance for romance but now you realize that this isn’t even something you want anymore.
You may have even started sleeping with your roommate out of curiosity but it consequently led to more.
Regardless of what your reasons were, they really weren’t geared towards romance in the long-term.
They were temporary feelings that have now been met in some capacity.
The longer you wait to end this, the harder it will be to do so.
You may even get to the point where your living situation becomes strained because one party isn’t willing to be around the other.
This is why you should do this now and avoid getting into too much detail about your reasons.
You still need to maintain a good relationship with this person if they are to continue being your roommate.
This is why your approach should be amicable, respectful, but firm.
Your goal shouldn’t be to make your roommate feel inadequate.
Your goal also shouldn’t be to leave the impression that there may be hope for more in the future.
You should leave your roommate with the impression that this is something that you have decided for yourself and you aren’t blaming them in anyway for this decision.
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