My Girlfriend Is Texting Some Other Guy

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My Girlfriend Is Texting Some Other GuyIf your girlfriend is texting some other guy, he may be a friend of hers.

Perhaps you feel uneasy about this because she hasn’t spoken of him before or introduced you to him.

However, if your relationship is relatively new, there is a good chance that she hasn’t told you about every single one of her friends yet.

It’s okay for your girlfriend to text some other guy.

If this was a guy that she knew before you became her boyfriend, she has every right to continue communicating with him.

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Do not start becoming overprotective of your girlfriend.

This is where some relationships suffer.

You should want her to continue being herself and having her friends.

If this guy is her friend, let her keep having that in her life.

Part of what makes her happy in life is due to the people that she has as friends or she surrounds herself with.

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Contrary to what you may believe, you are not the only source of her happiness.

She wouldn’t be who she is today without those friends to some degree.

If you were to begin to act like those relationships should be abandoned merely because you are her boyfriend, you may begin to close her off from a part of what makes her who she is.

She may become stressed and very uneasy in the relationship.

You may even force her to begin to complain to her other friends who in turn may tell her to get out of the relationship she has with you.

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You could force her to start hiding in order to text guys that she has had as friends for years.

You don’t want her to do these things right?

You don’t want her to become stressed and uneasy.

You don’t want her to start complaining to her friends about you.

You don’t want her to start hiding in order to text her guy friends.

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The best relationship is one where both partners are open and honest with each other.

They have no trouble communicating with someone else of the opposite gender in front of each other because they have nothing to hide from each other.

She would be open to telling you about him if she didn’t feel like you would jump to some very judgmental accusations.

There is a good chance that at some point she will tell you about him as she becomes more and more comfortable with you.

This does take time.

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Now, you may feel like a lot of time has elapsed and you are yet to be told about or introduced to this guy that she texts.

Understand that what you may feel to be a lot of time may actually be a handful of weeks or months in reality.

This is how a jealous or envious mind may get the best of you.

If she is your girlfriend, you have to learn to trust her.

You cannot build a healthy and enduring relationship without trust.

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Avoid the mistake of drawing conclusions about this guy.

As your relationship develops, you will learn more about him in the future.

You can be patient until then.

Meanwhile, continue working on building a trusting and fulfilling relationship. When you are able to build this kind of trust, your relationship may be able to grow in a positive way.

010By Luke Iwuji, a dating coach and founder of DatingLogic.net. For the best professional dating or relationship advice, Book a Session with me.


2 thoughts on “My Girlfriend Is Texting Some Other Guy”

  1. Okay, but how should I feel about a guy she met five days ago? They talk a lot. I know he knows about me being her boyfriend, but, he’s still calling her pretty and interesting and she going along with it like it’s nothing. How can I explain that itd be cool if he was already your friend, but this is a whole new terrain for me.

  2. Hi John,

    You should definitely not feel right about this.

    It is very likely that your girlfriend loves the attention she is getting from this guy.

    She may also not have that much respect for you if she is blatantly flirting with another guy who she is now communicating with on a constant basis.

    You will have to be blunt and honest by telling her that you are feeling like she isn’t respecting the relationship.

    If she becomes defensive and tells you that she isn’t cheating or hasn’t done anything wrong, remind her about how she would feel if you had just met a girl five days ago and was doing this much flirting and communication with her.

    This alone may make your girlfriend realize that she has not been acting in the right way and she may stop what she is doing with this other guy.

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