Having landed a date with your dream girl, being terrified isn’t unusual.
But you must temper your emotions and the way you look at her.
Though she is your dream girl, she is human.
As human beings, we all have elements that we are not that particularly proud of or that we feel that we can work on.
She is the same way.
She is fallible and prone to mistakes just like any other human being.
You absolutely need to understand this.
When you start looking at this girl as your dream girl who can do no wrong, you will put her on a pedestal that you shouldn’t, consequently making yourself terrified.
You have got to bring her back down to earth in your mind.
Understand that the main reason why you have put this girl in the category of being your dream girl is because you have created fantasies about her in your mind.
You have created the perfect utopia of who you believe this girl to be in your mind.
You have created the perfect dates in your mind.
You have created the perfect scenarios where she can do no wrong in your mind.
This is what the human mind does when it gets really excited about someone.
This is what you must be cognizant of and temper.
The moment you come back to reality and realize that she is a girl that has flaws just like any other human being is the moment you stop being terrified.
You realize that she is just as human as anyone else.
You really have to come to terms with this before you go on your date.
When you don’t, you are inclined to be someone that you aren’t at the date, trying to match up to what you believe she wants in a guy.
You agree with everything she says, even when you have a different opinion.
You make up or exaggerate stories about yourself, believing that it would impress her.
You speak in a manner that is unusual to you, wanting her to believe that you are more exciting than you really are.
You present yourself as someone who really isn’t the real you, trying to match up to the dream that you have created.
You can’t be this way.
When you are terrified, you come off as a person that lacks confidence.
She gets the sense that you are putting her on a pedestal and this can turn her off.
A girl likes a guy who is assertive and willing to speak his mind.
If everything that came out of your mouth was a compliment to her beauty or an agreement to what she just said, she doesn’t see you as much of a challenge.
This makes her lose interest, knowing that she can have you that easily.
You shouldn’t be this way.
In order to have the best chance at having a successful date, you need to get rid of the notion that she is your dream girl who can do no wrong.
She is a girl that you like, that is for certain, but she is not infallible.
Once you make her human in your mind, you are no longer terrified.
You can go to the date as yourself and let things play out naturally.
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