What Does He Want?

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What Does He Want?

If he is showing genuine interest in you and communicating on a regular basis, he may want you.

However, you should allow the process to unfold at its own pace.

Many people make the mistake of wanting to move things along at an unnatural pace.

Perhaps you have become accustomed to relationships happening at a much quicker pace in your past.

Do understand that this is someone new.

This means that your interaction and chemistry with him may be totally different from what you have experienced in the past.

You would have to understand and come to terms with this.

If you don’t, you may begin to doubt what you already have with him and this could create a strain on the relationship.

If he is conversing with you on a regular basis and trying to learn more about you, there is a good chance that he wants you.

He is simply taking the time to get to know you so that he can be sure about what he is doing or where this may be leading.

If he is asking you out on regular dates, there is a good chance that he wants you.

The more dates he goes on with you, the more he is trying to gauge your chemistry with him.

This is all within the process of the getting to know each other.

This is a good thing.

Now, if he hasn’t been communicating much or asking for dates, he may not want you.

A lack of communication is usually indicative of a lack of interest.

This is irrespective of how good your conversations are when you do communicate.

When a guy truly wants you, he will communicate as often as he can.

He will want to get to know you more and more.

You will be constantly in his thoughts.

If he is not communicating with you regularly, you are not regularly in his thoughts.

This is normally an indication that he doesn’t want to be with you.

You may be fun to talk to and even flirt with.

However, it is all about action.

If he is not inviting you to dates or communicating on a regular basis, he is not as interested in you as you would hope.

If you have also noticed that he tends to talk to a lot of other girls, you may not be that important to him.

You may be a lot lower on his priority list.

A guy who really wants a girl will typically give her the lion’s share of his attention.

He may have other girls that he is talking to but he may make you his priority because he has found a stronger connection with you.

If he isn’t making you his priority, he may not want you.

He may keep you around because he loves the attention.

He may be that kind of guy who gets a boost to his ego every time he talks to a girl no matter how random.

However, he is not the type that wants to commit to you.

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2 thoughts on “What Does He Want?”

  1. Ok.So there’s this guy we have known each other for a long time.We both decided to take things to the next level.Everything was going well,we went on dates,text all the time.After a while he started acting differently.He didnt text/talk to me as much as he used to.And When I asked what was wrong,why he has been acting differently he said that he’s been busy and he’s had a long day/he was going through something personal and he wouldn’t tell me.So I waited a couple days to see if he would change or things would get better and it didn’t.I talked to him again and I said if things don’t get better we should end things,just be friends.He said why and a I told him I have told u many times that you changed and won’t talk to me or text me and would ignore me all the time.He said the same thing that he has been busy and has been going through something and doesn’t really talk to anyone lately and that’s not true.I said is it because you don’t like me anymore? Do you want to break Up?he said “no I do like you still and I don’t want to break up.”I told him if by tomorrow things don’t change and you don’t talk to me or give me a sign you still want to be with me we should just end things,but if you want to work things out still show me by actually taking to me tomorrow and he said ok.The next day he didn’t talk to me or say hi even though he knew I was there.I broke up with him after all the chances I have him and ended it.I just want to know what happend everything was going good and he changed he was my first boyfriend and he knew that.I took him on his first date and we liked each other so much,he told me the sweetest things like I would never hurt you/I’ll never use you I’m not that kind of guy and he was always here when I needed him.We held each other on very high expectations.Was it my fault did I try to hard was I too needy?I don’t understand what went wrong.

  2. Hi Vanessa,

    There is a chance that he started getting worried about how much the dynamic of the relationship had changed once you both got into a romantic relationship.

    When you were both simply friends, there was no pressure to fulfill the other’s emotional needs or expectations.

    He may not have truly considered what being in an actual romantic relationship with you would be like.

    He may be communicating less because he is realizing that this is real and he may not honestly be quite ready to be in a committed romantic relationship.

    You did state that you both hold each other to very high expectations. Now that you are both dating, he may feel like he can’t meet those expectations at this time.

    As far as whether all of this was your fault and whether you tried too hard or was too needy, you may have had some hand in this.

    Perhaps you wanted him to text or talk to you a lot more than what he was used to.

    Perhaps when you were both just friends, he would communicate with you less and you were fine with that.

    However, once you both started dating, you wanted a lot more than he was prepared to give.

    Remember, as I stated earlier, he may not have truly considered the magnitude of what it would be like to be in an actual romantic relationship with you.

    He may have just thought that nothing would really change as far as the dynamic of the relationship and that your relationship would still be like it was when you were just friends.

    However, your expectations changed once you both started dating and he may not be ready to meet them.

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