You don’t have to make small talk before asking a girl out on a second date.
You can simply ask her out on a second date directly. It really is this simple.
If you are feeling nervous or uncertain about asking her out on a second date, don’t be. Being nervous can be very detrimental to the process.
You have already been on a first date with her.
She will be expecting that at some point you are going to ask her out on a second date.
If she enjoyed the first date, she would even be anticipating it.
You shouldn’t feel like you have to have small talk just so that you can ask her out on a second date.
Your best option is to simply ask her out on a second date intentionally and unambiguously.
A girl likes it when a guy is assertive.
She likes it when he has no fear about going for what he wants.
When you ask her out directly, she is fully aware of your intentions.
This would also be an indication to her that you enjoyed the first date.
The danger of engaging in small talk beforehand is that something may be said during the small talk that discourages you from asking her out on a second date.
You may be hoping that she is enthusiastic during the small talk.
You may be wanting her to sound lively and be extemporaneous.
You may be hoping that she mentions the first date and how it went.
If she doesn’t sound as lively as you were hoping she would be while engaged in small talk, you may tell yourself that this wouldn’t be the time to ask her out on a second date.
You may have this same notion if she weren’t extemporaneous or if she didn’t mention the first date during the conversation.
You may tell yourself that she doesn’t sound like she would want a second date at this time.
You do this because you are so nervous.
You may already have been nervous about asking her out on the second date to begin with.
Now that she doesn’t sound as enthused as you would want, you don’t want to risk rejection.
What you then do in this situation is delay asking her out.
You tell yourself that it would be best to wait it out before asking her out on a second date.
You want to catch her when she sounds more enthused or is in a better mood.
Unfortunately, the next time you have small talk with her, she may be the same.
You decide to delay asking her out on a second date yet again because you just don’t feel confident that she would give you a yes.
This delay tactic has now lost you a lot of precious time with her.
You may have just ruined your chances of ever getting a second date with her because she may wondering why you are taking so long to do so.
These are the traps that you set for yourself when you try to engage in small talk first before you ask her out on a second date.
Out of the fear that she will say no, you may want everything to feel and sound perfect before you attempt to ask her out.
You can’t be this way.
The sooner you ask her out in a direct manner, the sooner you will get her response.
You will have a better chance of a yes from her when you don’t delay.
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