Your Boyfriend’s Dog Died

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Your Boyfriend's Dog Died

Your boyfriend is exceedingly upset that his beloved dog has died.

Having had a close relationship with this dog, it is harder for him to grapple with the loss.

Unsure of how to approach this, you contemplate how you need to behave or what to say.

Avoid overthinking or overstepping your boundaries.

He is the one grappling with the grief.



Let him be the one to dictate how much support he needs from you.

Beyond giving him your condolences, don’t arbitrarily do things that you believe would cheer him up.

Make no assumption of what cheers him up.

Different guys handle grief in their own unique styles.

Give it time to discern how your boyfriend handles grief.



Some guys retreat for a while, preferring to be by themselves and grapple with their emotions in this vain.

Some guys need increased affection from those they love, such as a girlfriend, so as to keep their emotional pain at bay.

Some guys don’t want to talk about it in the slightest, beyond the initial condolences they receive, so as to mitigate their grief.

Being that this is the first time you are experiencing the death of a dog with this boyfriend, give him the latitude to indicate how he wants to grapple with this.

Should he need to talk, don’t get carried away with what you need to say to comfort him.



Let him lead.

It isn’t a given that in wanting to talk, he needs you to say much of anything.

Sometimes, a guy just wants you to listen as he grapples with grief.

Having someone hear him out without needing that person to say much of anything.

A boyfriend who grapples with grief by distancing himself is one that many girlfriends struggle with.



To go from receiving attention from their boyfriend to suddenly not hearing from him as consistently as they have become accustomed to is a shock to the system.

Be aware that this sudden drop in attention from your boyfriend is possible and be prepared for it.

Don’t panic.

Most girls make the mistake of repeatedly getting in touch with their boyfriend, nervous about not having the attention from him they are used to.

Steer clear of doing this.



A boyfriend who grapples with grief by distancing himself, isn’t distancing himself forever.

Were you to keep hounding him during this time, you force him to distance himself for a longer period of time, being that you aren’t giving him the time he needs to come to terms with his emotions.

Give him the space and distance he needs.

Avoid incessantly calling or texting him during this time.

A brief message or two every other day is enough, and let him be.



Use this space to hang out with friends and family, and do new activities in your life.

Keeping yourself busy, so that you aren’t tempted to text and call him incessantly.

As a girl, the thought of distancing yourself when you are grappling with grief makes little sense.

To you, this moment is when someone should be reaching out for support from those they love the most.

Guys are different.



Many guys internalize their emotions.

It’s hard for them to express it and they choose instead to go off on their own to grapple with them.

Once he returns, he doesn’t necessarily talk about it.

All of a sudden, months later as you are hanging out with him, he breaks and cries over his dog.

It’s okay, some guys are like this.



Having compressed his emotions within, without releasing it at the time of his dog’s death, he finally gets to release those emotions months later.

This is where he demonstrates that he needs a shoulder to cry on and then, he finally gets over it and moves on.

Regardless of how your boyfriend grapples with grief, give him the autonomy to demonstrate what he needs from you.

No matter what that is, take solace in knowing his grief doesn’t last long, as long as you don’t impose yourself in it.

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2 thoughts on “Your Boyfriend’s Dog Died”

  1. We weren’t on very good terms before his dog died anyway, but we we’re okay,planning when we we’re going to meet up. Then in the morning when the dog went to be put down, he was blunt and short. Didn’t want to talk at all, even when I was comforting him he seemed rude, I told him I loved him and to let me know what was happening and that’s when he found out the dog was being put down. Then I told him I knew how much she meant and I was so sorry and he ignored me. A few hours later I said ‘I hope you’re okay’ and he said ‘thanks’ , I thought it was kind of rude and distant and it really upset me. I didn’t reply, but 10 minutes later he told me ‘Sorry if I come across as short but I hope you understand for the next few days or so I really aren’t going be in the mood to talk’ ,I’m literally heart broken, I feel like it’s just an excuse to not speak to me and it’s just before my exams. I love him more than anything but can’t help feeling like he doesn’t want to be with me/doesn’t love me anymore. Literally couldn’t imagine life without him, I don’t want this to make him not want to be with me, so I said I understood, loved him and was there for him and he ignored me. I am literally torn at the thought of not speaking , incase it leads to something more. I do not want to lose this boy ,love of my life

  2. Hi Ellie,

    You are just going to have to give him some time to grieve.

    The more you try to communicate with him, the more you will push him away.

    Take a step back and give him a few days to a week of space.

    Let him be the one to contact you the next time around.

    He will appreciate you for it and will most likely be in a much better mood at that point.

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