Yes, it is possible to learn how to trust again.
If you have had relationships in the past that ended badly, you have to understand that these were all individual instances.
In other words, not every person is one and the same.
A new person can bring a new experience.
However, you will not always have to experience these kind of relationships if you start making the right decisions in who you choose to date.
Take a look back at your past and ask yourself about these relationships.
Why did they end badly?
Was it something that you did?
Was it something that they did?
Listen, you have to really consider this.
Oftentimes, as human beings, we simply don’t want to take responsibility for our actions.
However, if we find ourselves in a similar situation or predicament over and over again, there is a reason for that.
Oftentimes that reason is us. We are doing something wrong.
It could be the way we go about our relationships.
It could be the kind of person that we often choose to date.
It could be the speed in which we get into relationships.
It could be how we often tend to seize control of a relationship once we get into one, thereby stifling our partners.
It could be anything.
However, the first step in fixing the problem is in taking a good hard look at yourself and what you have been doing.
You clearly now have trust issues.
Your past relationships have most likely caused this. However, think about yourself as a person.
Are you the type who is trustworthy?
If this is the case, you should be able to have the patience to be with someone who is just like you in this sense.
When you start dating someone, give yourself enough time to get to know them.
Perhaps you have gotten into relationships too quickly in the past.
Don’t do that anymore.
Take your time.
The more time you spend with someone, the more opportunities you have to know if this person is just like you, trustworthy.
You would also have the time to get to know this person’s family and friends and build a rapport with them.
This person’s family and friends would be a good source of information.
You can observe how this person treats them.
You can observe how this person talks to them and whether they show respect.
You can get accounts about this person’s past relationships from some of their friends and family.
These are all moments that occur because you have given your relationship with this person the time to develop and mature.
Your patience can make all the difference.
Also think about how you tend to behave once you get into a relationship.
Can you honestly say that you have always been perfect?
Can you honestly say that there weren’t moments where you were not considerate about something?
These are the behaviors that you need to reflect on and correct.
You would need to correct them because your predicament may be due to them.
If you tend to become controlling once you get into a relationship, end that.
This is what may be pushing your partners away and even compelling them to become unfaithful.
A relationship is a two way street after all. Both partners should feel like they have an equal say in how things are managed within the relationship.
If you make these adjustments, you may discover that the next person you date is very trustworthy.
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