When he doesn’t say “I love you” back, he isn’t in love with you quite yet.
He cares about you deeply but isn’t at a place where he feels comfortable telling you that he loves you and truly mean it.
This doesn’t mean it can’t happen.
It really doesn’t.
This doesn’t mean that he will never be able to love you and say it.
He isn’t at that point right now.
If you have a good relationship with him and have no reason to be fearful for the relationship, there is a good chance that he will come to tell you that he loves you in good time.
Oftentimes, two partners fall in love at different stages in the relationship.
One falls in love a lot earlier than the other.
You had this hunger for love before you began to date him.
Once you began dating and realized that he was what you were looking for, you allowed the love to happen a lot quicker.
The right person for you came along.
You literally let yourself open up to him because this was something that you were already waiting for.
Understand that he wasn’t waiting to fall in love.
He wasn’t as hungry as you were to fall in love.
When he started dating you, he wasn’t necessarily full of a whole bunch of love that he had been storing up all along.
He would need more time to allow this love to develop and manifest itself.
This could really be the situation that you are in.
He is the kind of guy who has a hard time truly expressing his feelings.
A guy who tends to be relatively secretive or private about certain aspects of his life, is a guy who can’t simply tell you that he loves you back that easily.
Think about the kind of guy he is.
Is he an emotional guy?
Is he all into romance?
Does he take you out on spontaneous dates?
A guy who doesn’t, is one who isn’t predisposed to letting his feelings be known.
You could even look to his dating history as a guide.
If he tends to have short-lived romantic partners, it could be because of his difficulty in expressing himself or even opening himself up completely to someone.
Another important reason why he doesn’t tell you that he loves you back has to do with his worry about the kind of expectations you would have if he were to tell you that he loved you back.
He worries that the moment he tells you that he loves you back, you will begin to set expectations of the relationship that he simply couldn’t meet at this time.
He loves you.
He just doesn’t want to deal with what you would expect him to say or do if he were to tell you that he loved you back.
He is not quite ready for that level of pressure.
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