You wouldn’t know if you’ve found the one within the first few weeks or months of the relationship.
It takes quite a bit of time for you to know.
This person would have had to see you at your worst and vice versa.
By this point, you would have had some trying experiences together that challenged your relationship.
In other words, you would have to first and foremost get through the honeymoon phase of your relationship.
The honeymoon phase is when you are still in euphoria and filled with expectations.
Your excitement levels are at their peak and everything feels so fresh and new.
You would have to get through this period first.
It normally lasts within the first six months to two years of the relationship.
This is not the time for you to start determining if you’ve found the one.
It would be too easy for your excitement levels to influence your judgment during this time.
You will need to be patient and allow your excitement levels to settle.
This will happen naturally.
At this point you will be more clear-headed.
You will also need this kind of time because you still don’t know this person all that well.
You may believe that you do but you really don’t.
Whatever they have told you about themselves were just words. With time, you actually get to observe their actions.
You actually get to see what this person is really like in life.
No more words. This is real life.
Only time can actually give you the opportunity to observe this.
Only time can enable you to observe this person’s habits.
Only time can enable you to watch how this person interacts with their social circle and society at large.
Only time can enable you to observe whether this person actually means what they say.
This is all so important because it is so easy to fall for the words.
It is so easy to fall for a good first impression.
Remember that instinctively, most people who go on a date will bring their best possible self.
They naturally want to leave a good impression on their date.
They may do this for several dates.
It is not until you have given it time that you will be able to truly tell this person’s true character.
It would be very difficult if not impossible for a person to maintain a fake act for too long without you eventually picking up on something.
This is when you realize that you are beginning to get small doses of who this person really is.
Yes, they could turn out to be the right one for you but they also may not.
Your most important task is to avoid making an instant judgment based on how you feel right now.
Give it time.
Get past the honeymoon phase.
Give yourself the opportunity to really get to know this person and what they are about.
After a period of time, you will know if this person truly accepts you.
You would know who this person really is and whether you would be able to accept that and not fall victim to what you think the person is.
This is how you know that you have found “the one” for you.
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