Should I Give Up On My Crush?

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Should I Give Up On My Crush?

Is your crush single and available?

In the case they are, have you asked your crush out or told them how you feel about them?

Have you taken decisive action?

Sending vague signs of romantic interest to your crush doesn’t get you what you want.

You are making brazen assumptions of your crush in assuming that your crush reads romantic signs.

The truth is, your crush has no idea that you like them.

They are going about their day completely oblivious to this.

This doesn’t mean they aren’t open to dating you, but what you are doing isn’t getting the job done.

What have you been doing?

Have you been wholly relying on interest signals?

Your crush is not a magician or a sorcerer.

They don’t know what you are thinking.

They need to know what your intentions are so as to react accordingly.

Put yourself in the shoes of your crush.

Would you want someone who is upfront about liking you or someone who sends strange signs that are hard to interpret or perceive?

Of course you want someone who is upfront, especially with a crush you have romantic feelings for.

No one wants to misinterpret someone else’s signals.

Misinterpreting interest signals and acting on it leads to embarrassment.

This is why indirect signals are often met with a lack of acknowledgement from the object of interest.

Smiling at your crush one day doesn’t mean they interpret that as a sign you are interested in them.

Whether your crush smiles back at you or not, a quick smile from you is no different from receiving a quick polite smile from a stranger.

At that moment, your crush smiles back to reciprocate the politeness or they choose not to smile back.

Regardless, they aren’t interpreting your smile as a sign of romantic interest.

It doesn’t matter when you make eye contact with your crush either.

As far as your crush is concerned, they happened to catch your eye by accident, in the same vain that a random stranger does.

Your crush doesn’t read anything special into it.

Why go through these hoops in the hopes your crush discerns that you like them?

Overcome these hoops by making an aggressive move on your crush.

Ask your crush out or let them know about how you feel about them.

Giving up on your crush on account of them not responding to your signals is a mistake.

You are losing out on someone who has the potential to be interested in you, as long as they are single and available.

Don’t rely on sending interest signals to a crush, as they are completely missed or misinterpreted a lot.

The last thing you want is to lose out on a crush who was interested in you, based on your reluctance to be upfront with them about your interest in them.

Don’t worry about rejection.

Rejection isn’t personal.

No one person is desirable to everyone.

Not you, not Adonis himself nor Aphrodite herself.

Upon rejection, keep your chin up and keep moving forward to the next.

Until you make a move on your crush, you won’t know whether their is romantic potential with them.

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4 thoughts on “Should I Give Up On My Crush?”

  1. So do you flat out just say to them, I have a crush on you? It seems so childish or something you do in a schoolyard

  2. Hi Lena,

    You don’t have to use those words exactly.

    You could simply ask your crush out to do something with you. That would be sufficient enough.

    If you aren’t comfortable doing that, you could tell your crush that you are currently single and you are interested in getting to know him or her better as a person.

    At that point, your crush should understand what you mean and based on how he or she responds, you will know if the process of courtship can move forward or not.

  3. Should I keep loving the person that I still have a crush on. Because she rejected me once but I still love her and I don’t know want to do?

  4. Hi Sanly,

    If she has rejected you when you clearly let her know that you were interested in her, you shouldn’t still keep hoping.

    You should move on and let her go.

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