This one guy has had a profound effect on you, leading you to think about him throughout your day .
He has told you something that stayed with you or left an indelible impression on you without saying a word.
You weren’t ready for it and it has left you curious and wanting more.
This guy is mysterious and hard to read, making him hard to forget.
He is a different experience from what you are used to and gives you stimuli you respond to.
That stimuli is mystery, intrigue, danger, perplexity, etc.
There is an effect this guy has on you that draws out a particular emotion.
You like this emotion.
This emotion is what keeps you interested.
You have found it rare to experience this specific emotion with anyone else.
This guy is a fixture in your imagination, as every time you think of him, this emotion surfaces.
Since this is a powerful emotion that you rarely feel, you want more of it.
It’s almost like a drug that you can’t get enough of.
You think about this guy increasingly and he is impossible to forget.
You are essentially attached to that emotion and the person that elicits it from you.
This is the guy you consider to be your ideal.
Your ideal has eluded you in life.
This guy finally meets that bar.
You don’t know exactly why he does.
Other guys that have liked you in the past have seemingly had the right qualities.
On paper, these guys were picture perfect for you.
Yet, you felt that there was something missing with these guys.
You haven’t deduced what it was but you felt it.
Notwithstanding, you went along and dated some of these guys, as they were decent enough.
You told yourself that what you were seeking is impossible to find.
That feeling that you want to experience isn’t realistic.
You convince yourself of this and push on with your dating life.
Each new guy you date is basically the carbon copy of the previous guy.
On paper, these guys appear to be your perfect match.
In the back of your mind, you know that there is something missing.
This new guy walks into your life out of nowhere.
He elicits that special emotion in you that you have been so craving, pushing you to think about him at all hours of the day.
You are feeling good.
You have butterflies when you think about him.
This guy is different from everyone else, by a mile.
How he talks or carries himself is different.
How he isn’t an open book and you know so little about him, is different.
On top of that, he doesn’t pay you much attention, which is something you aren’t used to from guys.
His touch and tone of voice has you breathless.
He knows the right buttons to push to get you to laugh or be mortified about something.
He is different.
This is why you can’t forget about this guy.
This guy that I meet awhile back and talked to a couple of times, the conversations were short and simple. He asked another girl to ask me a question, rather than he doing it himself. Was he so shy or nervous to come and ask that he asked another girl to go do it? When I met him to talk to him about it, the body language and the looks were positive. He was leaning up against a rail with his hand in his belt loop and looking at me in the eyes. We have only talked once since then and I haven’t got a response. Was all of this for nothing, the conversations and everything. Why did he have to get another girl to talk to me and why would he seem interested but then not have any communication? Was he not interested? I was starting to like him….
Hi Steph,
Yes, he asked another girl to ask you a question because he was most likely to shy or nervous to come to you and do it.
The conversations may not have been for nothing.
Since he is most likely shy, he may not quite know how to start and keep a conversation going with you.
Remember that you were the one who took the initiative in meeting up with him and talking to him after he had sent the other girl to ask you a question.
Thereby, he clearly has some difficulty initiating conversation with you.
He was most likely interested in you, but again, his shyness may be preventing him from talking to you.