When people don’t approach dating in the right way, they make it unnecessarily hard for themselves and increase the chances of failure.
Sometimes, all it takes is sincerity and an understanding of what you both want.
When people start dating without any notion of what they want or are misleading in who they present, they make dating harder.
Dating should be a fun experience.
Too many people complicate it.
Dating should be simple and easy going.
Even if both parties ultimately realize that they aren’t compatible, there is no harm done.
You simply move on to the next person that you may be able to find a connection with.
Dating only gets hard when people come at it from an angle of selfishness and a lack of clarity.
Dating is a two way street.
One person shouldn’t only be concerned with having their needs met while leaving the other person empty handed.
There has to be a mutual understanding that you are both in this as partners.
There has to be a shared interest in making each other comfortable and allowing for happiness.
Both parties should share an equal interest in making the relationship function efficiently.
When people get selfish, they cause more hardship in dating than it needs.
When it is always about what that person can do for you and you only, there is no balance in the relationship.
It makes the dating process completely one sided.
The other person may play along in the hopes that this changes in the future.
However, when a person has set a particular tone during the dating process, it is very hard to break from it.
You should approach dating with honesty and a clear intent.
You should be there for the right reasons.
If you are not looking to date seriously at that moment, you should let your date know that.
If you are looking to date for a long-term relationship, you should let your date know that as well.
Where people go wrong is when they are insincere.
They give their date the wrong impression of what they want simply because they are being selfish.
They mislead their date just so that they either get what they want or leave an opening for them to get it in the future.
Your date deserves to understand where you are coming from.
You get better results when both parties are aware of what they are getting into and what the other wants.
When you are deceptive, your date may not know any better.
They may follow along believing that this may lead to something more when in fact all you wanted from the start was something short-term.
This is where people complicate things and make dating a lot harder than it has to be.
If you are about to start dating, always use honesty as your golden rule.
Follow that rule.
It will take you far and enable you to have experiences that compliment your life and not burden it.
Be sure about what you want and what your feelings are.
Let that be your guide.
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