For a relationship to work in a healthy fashion, both parties have to care.
They have to care about where the relationship is or where it may be headed. They have to care about how the other feels. It has to be a team effort.
If you got hurt but you don’t want to lose him, you have to consider the possibility that he may be the one taking advantage of you.
When one partner knows that the other cares for them a lot more, they can easily abuse that power.
If you care more than he does, what does that tell you?
It tells you that he isn’t investing as much emotional energy into this relationship.
You are the one who essentially gets to carry the weight when problematic issues arise.
A healthy relationship is not one sided.
A healthy relationship is one that has the well being of both parties at its center.
You should strongly consider the fact that he may not love you.
Perhaps he has told you that he has.
However, those are just words.
What has he done for you lately to show you that he is true?
When was the last time he said something kind to you or took you out?
When was the last time he talked about your future together?
If you are the only one who tends to care about what happens in the relationship, it will be impossible for you to keep this relationship happy and durable.
A relationship can only work when both partners are fully invested in it.
If you are the only one who cares, you are the only one putting out any real effort to keep the passion alive in the relationship.
You can’t keep the passion burning for both parties.
That passion has to be returned in order for the relationship to work.
There is a give and take in relationships.
You shouldn’t be the only one giving.
You should ask yourself why you are so afraid to lose him.
What is it exactly that makes you fearful?
Could it be that you love him and just can’t look at life without him?
Could it be that you lay the blame for your relationship woes on yourself alone?
Could it be because you believe that you can never find someone else who can love you the way he does?
The truth is, you have to come to terms with the fact that you may have a degree of lowered self-esteem due to what you have been going through with him.
There may be a part of you that has simply lost confidence.
You may be so affected by what he has been doing that you have lost a sense of who you used to be.
This means that you need to find a way to start rebuilding your sense of self-worth.
You need to be away from this kind of guy. Staying with him would only lead to more self-doubt and dejection.
This is not the sort of person nor relationship you should aspire to be in.
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