Is Asking A Girl Out Over A Letter Too Childish In High School?

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Is Asking A Girl Out Over A Letter Too Childish In High School?


If you like this girl, you should ask her out face to face.

I know that it may feel really scary to do this.

You may not know how to present yourself in front of her.

You may be worried that you will say something that offends her.

You may be worried that she will ignore you entirely.

You may even be worried that she may laugh in your face.

Regardless of your fears, you simply have to let them go and do what you have to do.

There is always going to be risk.

If there was no risk in the dating world, few people would be motivated to actually date and get to know someone.

Risk is an important part of the game.

The risk is rewarding regardless of failure.

Let me say that again.

The risk is rewarding regardless of failure.

Here is why.

When you take the risk of asking a girl out, you are putting your intentions out there.

You are being honest and bold about what you want.

Let’s say that she turns you down.

What have you lost exactly?


She wasn’t yours in the first place so what exactly did you lose?

This is one of the most effective ways to look at this kind of risk and understand that it can only help you as oppose to harm you.

It helps you because you have now let this girl know how you feel about her.

Even though she may have turned you down, you have emboldened yourself in the sense that you took a chance.

You took a chance on love or romance and that is saying a lot.

You will be able to look back at the experience without regret because you actually went for it.

This is how you should be looking at this.

Let’s go over it again.

You take a risk. You ask girl out. Girl says no. You lose nothing.


You never had the girl to begin with.

Now, what do you do with all this energy?

You apply it to the next girl and ask her out.

Maybe she says yes or maybe she doesn’t.

Either way, each time you ask a girl out, you embolden yourself. You prove to yourself that you are actually capable of going after what you want.

If you were to use a letter to ask this girl out, she may feel like you lack confidence.

Girls love guys who have confidence.

They like guys that are assertive and aren’t afraid to go after what they want.

You would be better off asking her out face to face for this reason alone.

A girl may also feel less desirable or special if you were to ask her out by letter.

She may feel like this is a letter that you could have mass produced and sent to multiple girls.

It doesn’t make her feel like you have seen something unique about her that drives you to want to take her out.

It just feels impersonal and bland.

When you ask her out in person, she gets to see the living, breathing you right in front of her.

She gets to see your eyes and the way your body moves as you talk.

She gets to hear the sound of your voice and gauge its level of confidence and energy.

These are all elements that make the process a lot more personal than writing a bland letter.

This gives you a better chance of getting a yes from her than a no.

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