If your crush is single and available, let them know how you feel about them.
If you make assumptions that you have no chance with them, you could be setting yourself up for premature failure.
How do you know you have no chance with them?
How do you know that you would not be suitable for their needs?
How do you know that you wouldn’t be the one who actually makes them feel good?
When you make assumptions about not having a chance with someone, it usually reflects a lack of self-esteem.
If this is you, you need to change the way your mind works.
You should understand your value and what you can bring to a possible relationship.
You have to be able to see your worth and your usefulness.
If you don’t see this, how are you going to make anyone be excited enough to want to date you?
That person will notice that you don’t have much sense of self-esteem and they would be turned off by that.
You need to ensure that you know what you are about and place true value in what you have to offer.
If you feel that you have a lot to offer as a unique person, you should have no fear letting this crush know how you feel about them.
You would understand that this wouldn’t be just about them but also about what they stand to gain by dating someone as special as you.
The sooner you make this assessment and follow through, the better.
The longer you delay this, the less likely you will have the courage to let your crush know how you feel about them.
Understand that your crush may feel the same way you do.
This does happen quite often.
It may be a situation where your crush may not be too sure about how you feel about them and as a result they wait.
However, someone has to make that move and get things going.
Again, the longer you wait, the less likely anything will happen.
You may even have to start dealing with someone else who did have the courage to talk to your crush and has now seized their attention.
You do have a chance to date someone in this world.
Is it necessarily going to be your crush?
However, this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t try.
Remember that some of the most valuable relationships that we have were born out of risk.
You cannot expect everything to be so easy. You cannot expect to simply “want” something to happen so badly and hope that it does without you taking some decisive action to make it so.
You have to take a stand and just go for it.
Try not to overanalyze the discussion that you will have with your crush.
If you were to do that, you would only keep creating new reasons why you shouldn’t let your crush know how you feel about them.
The moment you decide that you are worth dating because you do have a lot to offer and that anyone would be fortunate to date you is the moment you realize that being fearful is pointless.
If this crush is single and available, take a chance and let them know how you feel about them or ask them out directly.
Regardless of how it turns out, you would have reinforced a stronger sense of self and this bodes well for any future relationship you may enter.
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