If You No Longer Want To Date Someone?

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If You No Longer Want To Date Someone?

Sounds like you have been on a few dates with this person and you simply don’t see any future with them.

Perhaps, you just feel like the chemistry isn’t there or you have simply lost interest for whatever reason.

Your best option is to be honest.

Let them know that you don’t believe this is going to work out.

You have to let them know that your heart is no longer in it and you want to move on.

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You can be totally civil about it.

But, it must be said.

One of the biggest mistakes that people make when they are in this situation is waiting.

They keep going on these dates just waiting for a spark or hoping that the spark comes back.

This is not the route to take.

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You are only wasting their time and yours.

Something has led to this point.

Perhaps, you never really liked this person to the level that they liked you to begin with.

Yes, some initial interest may have been there but it was so flimsy that it has now been extinguished.

Perhaps, you never truly felt any real chemistry when the both of you were on your dates.

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Yes, the both of you may have gotten along just fine but there seemed to be something missing.

You may not have been able to really pinpoint it at the time but now you realize that what was missing was chemistry.

Perhaps, you have realized that you have reached a point in your life where you may not want to date someone for a while and you may want to just take some time out to grow as a person.

Perhaps, you have even found another person that you believe shares a lot more chemistry with you.

No matter the reason for what you are feeling now, you need to take immediate action.

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The sooner you let this person know that you no longer want to go on dates with them, the easier it will be for the both of you to move on.

Here is the thing.

If you were to let this persist, the other person will become more and more attached to you.

They may even begin to see you as a girlfriend or boyfriend.

They may begin to tell their family, friends and acquaintances about you.

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They may refer to you as a girlfriend or boyfriend when they do so.

Their picture of what you are and what you mean to them in their lives becomes so attached to their own sense of identity that they will find it hard to get you out of their mind.

Once the person that you are dating has reached this level of emotional involvement, it will be a lot harder for them to let you go and move on.

Hence, you seriously shouldn’t want things to get this far.

If you are experiencing doubt and displeasure in your current situation, it is for a reason.

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Your body and mind is telling you that you simply no longer want to date this person.

You may try to deny it for a while but the reality of your true feelings are what they are.

Your true feelings.

Thereby, let them know that you no longer want to go out on dates with them.

You don’t have to give them a reason.

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If you were to do so, you would either start giving a bunch of weak excuses or you would confuse them.

Just be honest and direct about it.

010By Luke Iwuji, a dating coach and founder of DatingLogic.net. For the best professional dating or relationship advice, Book a Session with me.