I Feel Like She Is Out Of My League

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I Feel Like She Is Out Of My League

Feeling like someone is out of your league, is a reality in your head that is of your own creation.

Your mind tells your body to act according to the reality you have created.

Suddenly your confidence around her is low, although you are someone who has a lot of confidence.

Why do you feel like she is out of your league?

Is it the good looking guys she has dated in the past?

Her own good looks, high social status or elite family background?

Those cool and trendy friends she has?

Throw these self-defeating thoughts out the window.

When these negative thoughts take over your mind, they hinder you from attaining what you want.

What do you want?

You want the girl, right?

Okay, take a look at yourself.

What does your family, friends and acquaintances like about you?

You add happiness and meaning to their lives for a reason.

What you offer them and by extension, the rest of the world, is special and uniquely identifiable with you.

Offer the same to this girl.

Show her what you show your family, friends and acquaintances.

Display the same confidence with her.

You are the one who is making her out of your league in your mind.

So what is the fixation?

You don’t believe you are good looking enough for her?

How do you know that?

Until you talk to her and ask her out, how do you know she doesn’t think you are attractive?

Do you have the power to read her mind?

Obviously, you don’t.

Do an exercise.

The next time you are out and about, observe who the good looking girls are dating.

Not every one of those guys are good looking.

On the contrary, several are average looking.

So there goes that argument.

Okay, so you believe that the guys that she has dated in the past look totally different from how you look.

They were buffer, blonder, taller, etc.

Well, who are you to make the judgment that the next guy she dates looks exactly the same as the rest?

That’s her call, not yours.

When you make this judgement for her, you are being the judge and jury of her heart.

She is the one in charge of her heart, not you.

Give her the latitude to decide whether you are the guy she wants to date by asking her out, as opposed to making assumptions of what her “type” is.

So there goes that argument.

Alright, what else?

Her high social status and the cool and trendy crowd she hangs out with bothers you?

Have you ever heard the term “opposites attract?”

How do you know that she isn’t at a point in her life where she wants something different?

People get bored with the same old everyday.

The same friends, social settings, opinions, culture, etc.

They crave something different.

Here, you show up at the perfect time, breaking her from the same mundane lifestyle.

You are a person who is “different” enough to bring new excitement into her life.

See, you were the perfect fix at the perfect time.

This is why you must never assume a girl is out of your league.

Don’t be the judge and jury of what she likes and what she doesn’t like.

Give her the latitude to make that decision by stepping up and asking her out.

Then, whatever happens happens.

Whether she agrees to go out with you or not, you have shown a strong level of confidence and belief in yourself which aids you in future encounters with other girls.

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