Why Do Guys Avoid Solid Date Plans When They Get To Know Me Better?

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Why Do Guys Avoid Solid Date Plans When They Get To Know Me Better?

It may be because they get to a point where they feel like they know too much.

This can be a problem.

One of the facets about dating that makes it so exciting is the prospect of getting to know someone.

It is like a journey that you are about to embark on.

Sometimes, that journey is ruined when you allow so much of yourself to be revealed before an actual date happens.

There is a reason why people are drawn to the mysterious.

It makes them curious and want to know more.

If you are constantly finding yourself in the position where guys avoid making solid date plans with you when they have gotten to know you better, you may not be giving them enough mystery.

They may have so much information about you that they lose the intrigue.

Once they have lost intrigue, it’s very hard for them to set up a solid date.

What would they be setting it up for?

They already know so much about you that they would feel like this would be a waste of their time.

In the getting to know you stage, there is nothing wrong with being open about who you are and what you are about.

However, you shouldn’t reveal all about you.

You should give the guys just enough to make them curious about you but not everything.

This may be the problem that you are having.

You give guys too much information or you show them too much of your character.

By the time you think that a solid date should be happening, the guys are not coming through because they have lost any sense of mystery about you.

Giving guys just enough to leave them wanting more is how the game is played.

You have to give them a reason to want to take the time, money and effort to ask you out on a solid date. Hence, try keeping some things to yourself.

Don’t reveal all.

Hold some cards to your chest. This way, guys would want to learn more and may ask for that solid date.

Also, you may come off as a little too desperate.

You may not even notice this.

Sometimes, a guy would interpret the fact that you are so forthcoming as a sign of someone desperate for a relationship or attention.

Try to look back at what you tend to do when you are interacting with guys.

Do you talk a bit too much?

Are you a bit too friendly?

There is a chance that you are.

When you do this, a guy may think that you are really looking to get involved in a relationship.

If a guy doesn’t feel the sense that you are someone who would be a challenge to chase, he may be turned off and not set up a solid date with you.

As he gets to know you better, this feeling grows. He senses an overeagerness on your part.

This makes him feel like you are needy.

A guy has to feel like you are a prize.

This is what motivates most guys to ask a girl out.

When you are overeager, he gets the impression that you would date just about anyone.

This doesn’t make you a prize.

As a result, he doesn’t set up a solid date with you.

Hence, do try to temper your eagerness as well.

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One thought on “Why Do Guys Avoid Solid Date Plans When They Get To Know Me Better?”

  1. HI, this makes it all seem to like it’s the women’s fault she wasn’t mysterious enough. She didn’t make herself out to be a prize. What if he just wasn’t looking for a relationship? Or what if he was lying to her and was seeing other girls as well. Or what if there was nothing she could have done differently because he just wasn’t ready to commit? Or what if the reason why he left was that he was a selfish A-hole.

    After reading this post it makes the women question herself. What if we should be questioning him?

    What if it wasn’t her fault at all?

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