She really makes time for you and shows a lot of interest in your interests.
These are very good signs that you should start a relationship with a girl because it shows that she is making an effort.
However, you should also assess where you are mentally.
You shouldn’t want to do this because it is what you are “supposed” to do.
A lot of people get into relationships out of pressure.
They are told by family and friends that it is time.
They are told by society that if you aren’t in a relationship, you are odd or different in some way.
This shouldn’t come into the equation when you make your decision.
You shouldn’t feel like getting into a relationship with this girl is something that you have to do to prove that you are desirable and normal.
You have nothing to prove.
What matters most is that she gets along with you and you truly feel like this is something that you would want to do for you, not society at large.
If you were to get into a relationship simply because you feel some kind of pressure to do so, you wouldn’t enter the relationship willingly.
The relationship would ultimately suffer as a result because you wouldn’t be going into it with sincerity.
This would be a waste of time for both you and the girl.
If you truly feel that you enjoy being around her and think about her constantly, she may be a candidate to get into a relationship with.
You just have to be honest with yourself.
Do look at where you are in your life right now and ensure that you aren’t feeling overwhelmingly lonely.
This is important because sometimes people will get into ill-advised relationships because they are lonely.
As human beings, we crave companionship.
This is natural and there is nothing wrong with it.
However, we can take this too far if we get desperate enough.
Ensure that you aren’t desperate.
Being desperate because you are lonely can force you to get into relationships that aren’t right for you.
These relationships ultimately suffer because the both of you weren’t compatible in the first place.
Hence, in order to make a genuine and wise decision on whether you should start a relationship with this girl, you should assess where you stand psychologically as well.
Give it real thought.
Yes, that means that you spend more than a minute assessing it.
Many people just jump into a relationship because the opportunity is there.
This isn’t what you should do.
You should really look at your life, your mind, your current situation and take all of that into account.
Do you feel that you are in a place in your life right now where you can have a relationship with a girl?
Is there room for one?
Can you make time for her?
You should even consider the future.
Are you about to embark on a career path or personal journey that will require a lot of your time in the near future?
Do you believe that there would be room to have a girl in your life with all this going on?
Yes, you really need to ask yourself all these questions and give yourself time to really come up with the answers.
I would even advise that you give this a few days before you make an actual decision on whether you should start a relationship with this girl.
This is because we can get so caught up in our emotions that we fail to see other problematic areas.
We are literally blinded by our passion for someone.
It’s the same feeling you get when you have just walked out of a seemingly exhilarating movie.
As you walk out of the theater, you can’t stop talking about how amazing it was.
Yet, about a week or so later, once you have had some time to let the effects of the experience dissipate, you begin to realize that though the movie was fun, it did have its flaws.
Hence, don’t get caught up in your emotions right now and rush into any decision.
Give it a few days.
Do the assessments that I described above.
Then make your decision.
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