She consistently makes time for you and shows a lot of interest in your interests.
These are good signs that you should start a relationship with a girl, taking into consideration how much of an effort she is putting out.
Assess where you are mentally.
Don’t do this out of a sense of duty or believing it is something you are “supposed” to do.
A lot of people get into relationships out of pressure.
They are told by family and friends that it is time.
They are told by society that not being in a relationship means they are odd or different.
This mustn’t come into the equation when you make your decision.
Getting into a relationship with this girl isn’t something you have to do to prove that you are desirable and normal.
You have nothing to prove.
What matters most is that she gets along with you and you truly feel like this is something that you want to do for you, not society at large.
Getting into a relationship based on outside pressure, forces you into a lackluster partnership.
The relationship suffers, bereft of sincerity.
This is a waste of time for both you and the girl.
An enjoyment of her presence and having her constantly in your thoughts is a strong sign of compatibility.
But be honest with yourself.
Do look at where you are in your life right now and gauge whether you are feeling overwhelmingly lonely.
This is how people get into ill-advised relationships.
As human beings, we crave companionship.
This is natural and there is nothing wrong with it.
We take this too far when we get desperate enough.
Don’t be desperate.
Being desperate thanks to loneliness forces you into relationships that aren’t right for you.
These relationships ultimately suffer because the both of you weren’t compatible in the first place.
In order to make a genuine and wise decision on whether you should start a relationship with this girl, assess where you stand psychologically.
Give it considerable thought.
Yes, that means that you spend more than a minute assessing it.
Many people just jump into a relationship to take advantage of a moment and this is unwise.
Look at your life, your mind, your current situation and take all of that into account.
Do you feel that you are in a place in your life right now to have a relationship with a girl?
Is there room for one?
Do you have time for her?
Consider the future.
Are you about to embark on a career path or personal journey that requires a lot of your time in the near future?
Do you believe that there is room to have a girl in your life with all this going on?
Ask yourself these questions and give yourself time to come up with the answers.
Give this a few days before you make a final decision on whether you should start a relationship with this girl.
When we have a big decision to make as human beings where formidable emotions are intertwined, we habitually under-analyze other problematic areas, blinded by our passion for someone.
It’s the same feeling you get when you have just walked out of a seemingly exhilarating movie.
As you walk out of the theater, you don’t stop talking about how amazing it was.
Yet, about a week or so later, once you have had some time to let the effects of the experience dissipate, you realize that though the movie was fun, it did have its flaws.
Don’t get caught up in your emotions right now and rush into any decision.
Give it a few days before making a decision.
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