If you are using the direct approach that didn’t have any period of rapport building through extended conversation or a getting-to-know-you stage, you say, “Would you like to have coffee?”
Simplicity is key.
You could also say, “Would you like to have lunch?”
Coffee and lunch are generic dates that almost every girl has either been on or heard of.
Hence, she would totally understand what you mean when you say this.
Hence, you have just asked her out.
It is clear, direct and she understands where you are coming from.
Now, if you have been talking to this girl for a while or you were engaged in extended conversation with her, what to say to ask her out may be a little different.
You could still use the generic approach as described above.
However, it would be better to ask her out by using something that you have learned from her.
It would show her that all the time that you have been getting to know her wasn’t spent in vain.
You really were paying attention to her and what she had to say.
That’s a good position to be in and already puts you in a good place in her eyes.
For instance, if through talking to her, you have discovered that she really likes to go to the gym or work out, you could make a date out of it.
You could ask her out by saying, “Would you like to go to the Juice bar after your work out on Friday?
This is a powerful way to ask a girl out.
You would give her the impression that you have really been paying attention to what she has been saying and what she is interested in.
It would make you appear to be giving and understanding.
You could do this with anything else that you learned about her during your rapport building stage.
If you learned that she likes to go to a particular park on Saturdays, you could ask her out by saying, “Let’s have a picnic Saturday at the park.”
This is how you should go about asking her out if you have spent some time actually getting to know this girl.
When you ask her out in a manner that relates to something that she has told you, she will be more inclined to say yes.
Above all else, no matter which way you ask her out, ensure that you do so with confidence.
It is really important that she gets the sense that you really want to do this.
If you come off as really intimidated or unsure of yourself, she may be less willing to say yes.
A girl will do just about anything with a guy she is interested in or likes as long as she feels like he is sure of himself and he really wants to go out with her.
So, be confident and be energetic.
You should give her the impression that you aren’t bored.
Even if you are asking her out for the generic dates, such as coffee, ensure that you appear excited and enthused.
By seeming excited and enthused, she will take this as a sign of how the date may go.
She may believe that the date would be exciting too, simply because of the enthusiasm that you are showing.
No girl wants to be bored at a date.
The more she feels that you will be fun, the more likely she will say yes.
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