You should assess how you feel and ask yourself if you are willing to keep going forward.
There has to be a moment that you allow yourself to determine where you stand mentally.
This is important.
It can be mentally exhausting to continue trying to make a relationship work when the other party isn’t putting in the same kind of effort.
Is this the situation that you are in?
There is only so much that you can do.
If he has not been putting in the kind of effort required to make this relationship work, it may be time for you to move on.
You have to understand that no matter how badly you want something to work, you can only do so much.
You can only do so much with your time and your energy.
How connected do you feel to this guy?
Do you try your hardest and still not get the type of response that you want from him?
Have you two actually had a discussion about how you are feeling?
If so, what was discussed and how did he respond to you?
If this discussion was had and he told you that he wanted to make things better but is yet to do it, you have all you need to know.
He clearly isn’t serious.
Again, as I mentioned earlier, you can’t force him to feel something he doesn’t.
If he hasn’t made the effort to make this relationship work better, he is sending you the signal that this relationship simply doesn’t mean much to him.
Is that what you want?
Someone who believes that the relationship isn’t worth it would not be invested in the relationship.
He would essentially be existing within the relationship and not experiencing it.
He would have no desire to take the relationship to the next level or truly work on problems.
Hence, if you really feel that you have put out an effort and given it your all but he hasn’t reciprocated, it may be time for you to give up and move on.
Many people in your situation stay, thinking that things will get better.
They then discover that things will not get better because the other person is simply not putting out the effort.
The result is wasted time and effort.
Don’t put yourself in this position.
If he isn’t trying to make this relationship work now, he won’t try in the future.
He may tell you that he will but in all honesty that is just lip service.
Action speaks a lot louder than words and so far his actions have been either lukewarm or non-existent.
The reason why you shouldn’t allow yourself to stay in this situation for too long is because you may end up wasting your energy and even experience a hit to your self-esteem.
The longer that people stay in relationships like this, the more insecure and unhappy they become about themselves.
They don’t know why they can’t seem to get their partner to take the relationship seriously.
Consequently, they start interpreting the way their partner is acting as a sign that there may be something wrong with them.
People who think like this have been in the relationship too long.
Sometimes, the damage can be irrevocable and can leave the person feeling trapped and isolated.
This is not a place you should reach.
Hence, make your assessments.
If all your efforts have been in vain, you should move on.
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