Determining whether the relationship is right for you comes down to your frame of mind and the chemistry you have with this person.
Some people get into relationships for the sake of them.
They either don’t want to be alone or choose to follow society’s standards.
Society dictates that they be in a relationship, so they get into one.
Realistically, relationships are meant to be voluntary partnerships between two people who genuinely want to share their lives for the right reasons.
Don’t get into a relationship solely out of societal expectations.
Figure out why you are in the relationship in the first place.
What was your motivation behind it?
Did you feel a strong sense of chemistry and connection with this person?
Was your frame of mind balanced at the time or were you acting out of loneliness, desperation or boredom?
It’s one thing to get into meaningless relationships, intent on passing time or just have sex.
As long as both parties are in on it, no one gets hurt.
In the occasion, you are in a relationship where one party thinks that there is more substance and you are thinking the exact opposite, it is best to act before someone gets hurt.
To solve this, figure out where you stand mentally and your chemistry with this person.
Use your instincts.
As human beings, we do have instincts.
Our instincts give us a window into our true motivations.
There are times when our hearts refuse to let us see the truth.
We don’t want to see that truth, being too lazy or too scared to truly understand our motivations.
We force ourselves into believing that we are in a relationship for the right reasons when we aren’t.
Sometimes, it is difficult to force ourselves to stop thinking with our hearts and permit our instincts to inform us of the truth.
Feeling odd about this relationship is how your instincts inform you about something within you being out of place.
It isn’t anything to do with the other person.
This person is perfectly fine.
The issue lies with you.
What is it?
Is there something that you want to get done in your life that is now hindered, thanks to this relationship?
Is there someone else that you like and hope comes around to liking you, making this current partner nothing more than a placeholder?
Your answer lies in what you are feeling within.
When you are around this person and yet your mind is consumed with other desires and concerns, you aren’t present.
It isn’t worth it to mask the truth from yourself.
When you mask the truth, you are not being forthright in the relationship.
Your partner asks you whether everything is alright and you say yes when it isn’t.
Building a good relationship out of lies or half-truths isn’t viable.
Figure out where you stand.
Do you feel like you are living a lie?
In that case, end the relationship and work on what needs fixing in your life.
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