Love. What Does It Mean?

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Love. What Does It Mean?

Love means that you care about someone to the point that you are just as concerned about their well-being as you are your own.

Love means that when you wake up in the morning and go to bed at night, your first and last thought may typically have that person in it.

It should cause a sensation of gratitude in you.

Love means that the “I” that you have had for most of your life as far as your daily and future expenditures has now been replaced by “We.”

Love doesn’t mean that you forget about your value and self-worth.

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It also doesn’t mean that you elevate your value or self-worth.

For love to be meaningful and true, both parties see the best in each other and view each other as equals.

Where so many people in love fail in their relationships is when they think that someone in the relationship has more value than the other.

You will see this often in relationships where one partner tends to be the one who makes most of the sacrifices.

They will put their own aspirations and desires to the side in order to wholly accommodate that of their partner’s.

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Unfortunately, this kind of love is harmful and demeaning.

What ultimately happens is that the other partner begins to take advantage of this.

They fall into the trap of placing their value higher than that of their partner’s.

The partner has obviously facilitated this and as a result the relationship is very lopsided.

This kind of love doesn’t last very long as one partner often will take advantage of the other.

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The unfortunate thing is that the partner who tends to do all the giving continues to feel inclined to do so because they believe that their only value is in making the other happy.

This is not the kind of love that you should want in a relationship.

The real meaning of love is when both parties see and recognize each other’s equal value.

There has to be an understanding that the both of you are equal members of a team.

Real love happens when your approach is one of togetherness and solidarity.

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One person giving more love than the other is not healthy.

Again, many relationships fall into this crevice when one party keeps doing more for the other.

The other grows to expect it and unfortunately begins to put out a lot less effort in the relationship.

Soon, whatever love that they may have had for the other diminishes into selfishness and self-aggrandizement.

This is where the relationship takes a sharp turn for the worst.

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Hence, if you are trying to figure out what love means, think about what is important and valuable to you.

Think about why a partner would be happy being with you.

In other words, think about why you are such a special and unique person.

When you understand what you bring to a relationship, it will be easier for you to understand what role the love that you have plays in a relationship.

You will understand that your sole purpose isn’t to please your partner or yourself.

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In being one as a couple and allowing each other to embrace your equality in the relationship, love becomes what it should be in a relationship.

The sharing, caring and pairing of two individuals who see each other as equals and are willing to appreciate what the other brings to the relationship each and everyday.

The pairing works because both individuals realize the need to ensure that the other feels safe and knows that they are always looking out for each other.

This is why love is so potent and deep-rooted.

010By Luke Iwuji, a dating coach and founder of DatingLogic.net. For the best professional dating or relationship advice, Book a Session with me.