Being unlikable to girls is all in your head.
Examine what is going on in your head.
Your mentality is the first step.
When you look at yourself as undesirable and unlikable to girls, you act accordingly and fulfill that belief.
Look back at your history with girls.
This thought process goes back.
Was it early on in grade school or later?
Were you rejected by a girl you were obsessed with in high school?
Did the girl you liked end up with a jock who bullied you?
Past trauma, especially at a young age, sows stubborn seeds of doubt in our minds.
We doubt our confidence and self-worth.
When this mindset is introduced so early in life, it frames our viewpoint of ourselves and how we perceive our world.
Don’t make the mistake of assuming this unlikability has everything to do with your physical looks.
It’s not that looks aren’t significant, but as the old adage says, “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.”
With billions of girls in this world, it’s hard to imagine that every single one of them finds you unattractive.
Regardless of how you regard your looks, increasing your likability to girls is extremely doable.
Some of the guys who score consistently with girls are some of the most ordinary looking.
Don’t believe me?
Next time you go out, take a look at the guys who have girlfriends.
There is a revelation.
Not every guy looks like Brad Pitt.
In reality, a lot of them are average looking and yet they have girlfriends.
When you look back on your history and see negative social patterns of behavior that you have maintained through your life, you know what to change.
Hanging around the same ilk of people every time means it’s time to make new friends.
Being reticent to talk to someone you are unfamiliar with, preferring the safety net of your social circle, has to change.
What matters most from here on out is a focus on making changes in areas of your life that you are most comfortable.
Exactly, areas that you are most comfortable.
It is time for you to take risks and be uncomfortable.
Indulge in activities that you have never tried and change up some of your routines.
For example, change where you go on Friday nights.
While out with your friends at a new social venue on a Friday night, get out of the habit of hiding in the crowd.
Time to be an attention hog.
Be the first one to grab that mike and belt your lungs out at karaoke, singing like your life depends on it.
This makes you appear incredibly likable to girls, as they are attracted to your confidence, whether you sound like Elvis Presley or a frog.
It is time for you to get out of your comfort zone and take risks.
Make some changes in your social life and in how you present yourself.
Pay attention to your appearance.
You don’t have to change your entire wardrobe but infuse new life to it by acquiring new outfits.
A newer wardrobe has several positive effects, including making you look dashing to the girls who see you out and about, which in turn boosts your confidence.
Your attitude and presentation is everything.
When you work on these and master them, girls are drawn to you, making your likability with girls skyrocket.
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