At 28 years old, you haven’t missed out on love.
Putting a time schedule on love is a misconception.
This was you.
When you were younger, you mapped out your entire life in reference to love.
You prognosticated on what age you meet your ideal mate.
You then saw a marriage and children.
You mapped out your life.
The truth is, not everyone is going to go on the straight and narrow path.
Not everyone gets to their preferred destination in life by a pre-mapped age.
It is discouraging to see the relationships around you.
You have friends who have found love, gotten married and are now having families.
This is where you question your value and attractiveness.
Questioning your value and attractiveness leads to low self-esteem.
This is unattractive and you are now Superman’s Kryptonite to any potential mate.
Don’t question your worth or consider why everything didn’t turn out how you had planned from when you were younger.
Instead of doing that, direct your attention to the achievements that you have had so far in your life.
Look at the healthy relationships that you currently have with friends, family, work companions, acquaintances and acknowledge the value in them.
Accept what you bring to these relationships.
You are a difference.
Realize that you are not abnormal for being a 28 year old single woman.
After acknowledging this, reflect on your life and the opportunities that you have had to meet potential mates in the past and evaluate how you responded.
Were there moments where a potential romantic match passed you by because that particular person didn’t meet the “criteria” that you were looking for in a mate?
Have you had these moments?
When you are conscientious about this and reflect on your past relationships or missed opportunities, it enlightens you to where there were missteps and how you correct them for future purposes.
A rock solid “criteria” of what you want in a mate isn’t a rule you must follow.
Loosen it up.
It doesn’t mean that you settle for what you don’t want, rather, it means you open yourself up to something different.
This requires you to be somewhat brave.
It is doable.
Take advantage of new avenues to meet people.
Don’t brush away offers to go out with friends on account of a “busy” life or being too tired.
Use a proactive approach to your dating life to give yourself a shot at love.
Sitting back and bemoaning your predicament at 28 years of age is to your disadvantage.
Reflect, adjust and act.
By acting, you seize control of your fate, instead of hoping that somehow your fate changes.
Being in control of your fate empowers you.
This empowerment helps you make better choices in a partner.