Reconciling with your ex-girlfriend can be tricky.
Before you decide to either do it or not, you should determine how you feel emotionally.
You should also try to really determine and be cognizant of what you may hope to get out of this.
These two points have to be absolutely clear in your mind.
If you aren’t clear in your mind about these, you may act unwisely.
Acting unwisely could lead to disaster.
So, how do you feel emotionally?
Are you angry at her?
Do you still love her?
Whatever you feel, it is important to come to terms with it.
If there is emotion there, you should ask yourself if you are in a place mentally to handle going through this process again.
If for example, the both of you had fights as partners and the relationship ended contentiously, it may not be in your best interest to reconcile with your ex-girlfriend.
Hence, you shouldn’t allow your emotions to cloud your judgment.
If the love is still there, you should ask yourself why that is and what you hope to gain from it.
Are you thinking that perhaps you can try again and see what happens just based on love?
That would be the wrong approach.
Many clinch to the idea that love is enough to conquer all woes in a relationship but the truth is, this is just not the case.
Thereby, you shouldn’t allow love to blind you from reality.
If the both of you struggled as partners, the love will not change that.
There may be fundamental problems in the relationship that need addressing.
Love can’t change that.
Hence, your task in all this is to simply figure out where you stand emotionally and what you may want.
You have to be clear about this so that you can make the right decision.
If you are not entirely sure at the moment, you can take some time to figure it out.
You don’t have to make a decision right now.
It is better to take your time in gauging and assessing your emotions than to jump into another possible failed attempt at a relationship with your ex-girlfriend.
It can be tempting to want to get right back into a relationship with your ex-girlfriend but that may not be the best option for you.
As much as you may want to get back with her, realize that there were reasons why the relationship ended in the first place.
Going back into a relationship with her without thinking things through may just lead to a continuation of the cycle.
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