Your thoughts on long distance relationships must be grounded in reality.
So many people have problems when they don’t do this.
They become so romanticized to the notion of finding someone they love long distance that they blind themselves to the repercussions.
When considering entering a long distance relationship, think long and hard.
A long distance relationship is significantly difficult to sustain and gets stressful.
Everything is rosy at first.
You have found someone you love and the both of you talk for hours on end.
They are ever-present in your head from day to day and they make you feel so good.
You wait to talk to them again by phone or on camera with bated breath.
Initially, people are blinded by love.
We are blinded by what is in front of us.
We get so entranced in the feelings of the moment that we refuse to see the truth.
This feeling only lasts so long before the effects of physical separation takes its toll.
You notice as time goes by that you are missing your long distance partner more and more.
You wish they were there on special occasions like anniversaries or holidays, to comfort you after you had a bad day at work or hold you when you feel lonely.
But they aren’t.
They aren’t there physically.
So you pick up that phone and call them and they don’t answer.
They are in a different time zone than you or are preoccupied.
You listen to that dial tone ring and ring without any answer and you reluctantly hang up, your heart sinking with it.
This situation repeats itself over and over and over again as long as you remain in the long distance relationship.
A refusal to physically move to where the other is by both parties, after having been in a long distance relationship for a sustained period of time is a death nail to your love life.
Do reconsider being in a long distance relationship.
After reconsidering, but still choosing to get involved in one, be aware of the possible drawbacks and go in with your eyes open.
The more aware you are of the challenges a long distance relationship presents, the better equipped you are to do what is required to make it work.
Long distance relationships are not always a failure.
Indeed, there are some successful long-term relationships that have come from long distance relationships.
Those successful relationships happened because the people involved knew what they were getting into beforehand and did everything in their power to keep their relationship as earnest and fresh as possible.
You need to have that same attitude in order to have a chance at a successful long distance relationship.