If the distance between you is killing the both of you but you don’t want to break up, you have to come to terms with your current situation.
The fact is, the distance is a major problem.
The distance is causing the relationship to stall.
This will not go away no matter how much you wish it would.
The reality of your situation is what it is and you have to truly see that.
How long do you honestly believe that you can go on like this?
It is easy to start telling yourself that somehow you will conquer.
You tell yourself that somehow the love that you share will get you two through.
Love can only take you so far when there is real physical distance between you and the one you love.
This can be hard to accept or even realize.
Take a look at your life and ask yourself if this is truly worth it.
How many potential dates have you allowed to slip through your fingers because you have been holding out on hope in this long distance relationship?
It’s not rare to see long distance couples literally waste precious years of their prime dating years being in a relationship that ultimately fails.
It happens quite often.
Unless you have both decided that one of you will move to where the other is physically, you need to break up this long distance relationship.
The lack of physical closeness in a long distance relationship often leads to resentment.
The resentment arises because the partner isn’t there physically to comfort them in times of strife, celebration or just simply there to satisfy the need for intimacy.
The human mind and body can only take so much before it completely bottoms out.
It has limits.
You don’t want this to happen when you haven’t made the conscious decision to break up the relationship.
It would be like what a drug addict experiences when they are trying to break the habit.
When you make a conscious decision to break up this long distance relationship, it may hurt initially but your mind would have already accepted it.
That way, you would not experience those harsh pains that you otherwise would if you allowed this to go the distance and crash on its own.
Do yourself a favor and amicably end this.
This way, you can both move forward with your lives and give each other the opportunity to meet new people that may be better matches thanks to proximity.
The danger that some people fall into is that they let something like this drag on for an indefinite period of time.
Again, you may fall into the trap of holding on to hope.
However, if you were to look at just how difficult your long distance relationship has been thus far, you would have your answer.
You would know that it wouldn’t benefit either one of you to go on with this charade.
It only makes life that much harder.
Instead, you should be taking this precious time to enjoy life and open yourself up to the possibility of a future relationship that could be more fulfilling for you.
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