Not wanting to break up amid the distance between you doesn’t absolve you from the conscious decision you made to enter a long distance relationship.
Sure, it’s killing the both of you, but this dire situation was mutually facilitated.
The fact is, the distance is a major problem.
Distance is causing the relationship to stall and this doesn’t go away no matter how much you wish it does.
The reality of your situation is what it is and you have to truly see that.
How long do you believe this is sustainable?
You tell yourself that somehow the love that you share gets you two through.
Love only takes you so far when there is real physical distance between you and the one you love.
Take a look at your life and ask yourself whether this is truly worth it.
How many potential dates have slipped through your fingers while holding out on hope in this long distance relationship?
It’s not rare to see long distance couples literally waste precious years of their prime dating years being in a relationship that ultimately fails.
It happens quite often.
Unless you have both decided that one of you is to move to where the other is physically, you need to break up this long distance relationship.
The lack of physical closeness in a long distance relationship leads to resentment.
The resentment arises, as the partner isn’t there physically to comfort them in times of strife or celebration, nor there to satisfy their need for intimacy.
The human mind and body only takes so much before it completely bottoms out.
It has limits.
You don’t want this to happen when you haven’t made the conscious decision to break up the relationship.
It is like what a drug addict experiences when they are breaking the habit.
When you make a conscious decision to break up this long distance relationship, it hurts initially but your mind has already accepted it.
You don’t experience those harsh pains that are inevitable in letting this go the distance and crashing on its own.
Do yourself a favor and amicably end this.
You both move forward with your lives and give each other the room to meet new people that are better matches thanks to proximity.
The danger that some people fall into is that they let something like this drag on for an indefinite period of time.
You fall into the trap of holding on to hope.
Looking at just how difficult your long distance relationship has been thus far, gives you an answer.
You know that it doesn’t benefit either one of you to go on with this charade.
It only makes life that much harder.
Instead, take this precious time to enjoy life and open yourself up to the possibility of a future relationship that is more fulfilling for you.
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