You should break up with your boyfriend now if you feel that you have nothing left to give in this relationship.
When you hold on to a bad relationship simply because it is what you know and are familiar with, you could lead yourself to a lot of emotional pain and heartache.
This isn’t healthy.
This is a very dangerous place to take yourself mentally and can really have negative effects on your entire being.
It’s hard to let go sometimes.
You may question whether you did everything in the relationship that you should have.
You may question whether you were a good girlfriend.
You may try to draw hope from past good times and try to tell yourself that there may still be a way forward in the relationship.
Here is the truth.
When you do not feel like you can go on, the relationship is dead.
It truly is.
It is really important that you don’t just brush your emotions aside and ignore them.
That would be unwise as your emotions are key.
For a relationship to truly work and stand the test of time, both parties have to have the same winning spirit.
Both parties have to be keen on keeping things going.
On your part, that spirit may be dead.
Even if your boyfriend were to change in some way now for the better, it honestly may not make a difference.
When your heart is no longer in it, it simply isn’t.
So you need to ask yourself where your heart is.
Can you honestly say that you still want to be with your boyfriend?
When you visualize your future, do you see him in it?
Again, it can be very tempting to tell yourself that you love so many qualities about him.
You may feel that these qualities could save the relationship and keep things going.
If you were honest with yourself, you may realize that these qualities, no matter how amazing, may not be as fascinating as they once were to you.
You have gotten used to them and don’t regard them as highly as you once did.
Whatever sense of nostalgia may not be enough to cover up the fact that you are simply not feeling as emotionally involved in this relationship as you once were.
You should break up with your boyfriend now when you realize that you are no longer truly in a relationship because it all seems like you are simply going through the motions.
Going through the motions will only be a waste of your time.
It would also make you keep delaying what needs to be done in the futile hope that something changes.
Oftentimes, when so much effort has been put out by one party and the other hasn’t done the same, the other is showing that they will always have this mindset.
If your boyfriend has been behaving in this way, he would get so complacent in this mode that he may just start regarding your complaints as mere bickering.
When he doesn’t take those complaints seriously, he will be less willing to work on them.
This leaves you at a place where you feel that you aren’t being looked at as an important or equal partner in the relationship.
Unfortunately, this is where you really have to make your leave and move on from this relationship.
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