If he hates to kiss, fixing it will require true and dedicated patience.
Typically, there are psychological aspects involved when a guy hates to kiss that need to be considered.
Kissing is a very strong sign of intimacy and there are guys who have significant problems with intimacy.
They may feel inadequate expressing it because it simply doesn’t feel right to them.
Hence, the problem is not necessarily the physical act of kissing itself.
The problem is the level of intimacy that comes with it.
There is a good chance that this is not the only area that you are having problems with.
There is a good chance that this guy may not even be that affectionate with you in general.
He may not want to hold you as much or even engage in more substantial conversations with you that address his feelings.
Hating the kiss is not the problem.
Hating intimacy or a fear of it is the problem.
You should figure out what this guy’s history has been like.
Has he had healthy past relationships?
Has he always had problems with intimacy in his past relationships?
This is important to know.
It is easy to look at this problem and think that perhaps the issue is you or that somehow he just doesn’t like kissing.
That is typically not the case.
Typically, he has a problem with intimacy and expressing his feelings in general.
The problem may be inherently within him.
You have to start learning how to make him feel comfortable.
You should give him a a sense of comfort whenever you are around him.
Let him know that you are there for him without judgment.
Do not be afraid to show him your flaws while also showing a strong inclination to overcome them.
Let him see both your strengths and your weaknesses.
Avoid trying to force him to become more forthright. He shouldn’t feel a sense of pressure. When he knows that he can open himself up without pressure, he will be more likely to do it.
As mentioned earlier, this will require patience.
However, if he responds to this, you will notice that he will no longer hate kissing because he is now more open to you and to intimacy.
That is where you want him to be.
From here, he may really start embracing all this to the point where it becomes second nature to him.
It’s all about just allowing him to get to know himself even better and what he finds comfortable.
He may not even be aware that he is a lot more open to kissing than he allows himself to believe.
Sometimes, a bad past experience may make a guy this closed off to kissing.
However, as long as you are able to get him to start feeling at ease around you, he may discover that he actually does like kissing after all.
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