To go from a hookup to a relationship, you have to start building some rapport with the person that you hooked up with.
Your goal should be to try to get to know them on a deeper basis.
This requires that you start making some sacrifices as far as your time is concerned.
You should be willing to do activities with them that you may not particularly enjoy.
This is part of the very important process of building rapport.
If you are not willing to invest your time in doing this, you may never get to a relationship.
Hence, you need to take a real interest in their interests.
When you talk to them, your sense of curiosity and excitement should rise.
They should be able to hear it in your tone of voice.
This is so important.
When they hear how excited you get when they talk about something that they love, it will make them feel like you care.
That starts giving them a sense of kinship with you.
This is where the rapport building really begins to flourish.
This is how the level of comfort and trust increases.
Do remember details about what they spoke to you about in previous conversations.
You have to be cognizant of this.
If you are forgetful of what was discussed, they may feel like you are disinterested and selfish.
Hence, even if the topic bored you to death, try to remember what was discussed.
These are topics that matter to this person and if you want to get this person to start trusting you, they have to feel like you are paying attention.
As time goes on, they will start to feel a sense of ease with you.
They will become more and more comfortable opening themselves up to you.
They will talk to you about their past, present and what they hope for in the future.
At this point, you have crossed that threshold and may indeed be in relationship territory.
This is the territory that you want to be but you will have to take things slow from here.
Avoid assuming that you are now entirely in relationship territory.
Avoid putting a label on the relationship until the both of you have gotten to a place of real comfort and understanding.
This way, you don’t end the progress you would have been making towards a relationship prematurely by scaring the other person off.
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