If your ex girlfriend told you that she would not meet up with you so as not to open up old wounds, there is a very good chance that she has moved on mentally from the relationship and doesn’t want to put herself in a difficult position.
She just doesn’t want to put out any more effort.
Meeting up with you may simply not be worth it to her.
You should ask yourself why you want so badly to meet up with your ex girlfriend.
Sometimes, we want to rekindle a past relationship simply because we are currently alone and fear being alone.
Hence, at moments like this, we are the most vulnerable and irrational. You begin to crave what you once had.
You begin to think that maybe this time around things can be a lot better.
The truth is that the both of you are exes for a reason.
Exes often get together over and over again, thinking that they can make the relationship work when the sad truth is that they are simply no longer compatible.
Ask yourself why this matters so much to you.
Yes, you may still love her. However, for a second, take the blinders off.
Is she really what is best for you right now?
Shouldn’t you be taking the time that you have now to become more at one with yourself?
This time is an opportunity to learn and grow as an individual.
This helps you now and also makes you a better catch for the future.
Learned relationship experiences can make us seasoned and prevent us from making the same mistakes over and over.
If your ex girlfriend doesn’t want to meet up so as not to open up old wounds, she is sending the message that she wants to move on with her life.
It’s really important that you get this message so that you can move on with your life as well.
You don’t want to waste your time.
To waste your time and effort could lead to a lot of heartache.
It may be something that you don’t necessarily want to consider at this time, but her moving on may actually be one of the best things that could have happened to the both of you.
It forces you to reflect on that relationship and hopefully gain lessons from it that will help you do better in your future relationships.
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