If he rarely initiates texts but replies right away, there is a good chance that he is not particularly interested in you.
The fact that he rarely initiates texts is indicative of a lack of strong or even true interest.
He is basically biding his time, preoccupied with other things and you are rarely in his thoughts until of course, he receives your text.
Now, he replies.
This is one scenario.
Another scenario could be that he is allowing you to be in the driver’s seat. In essence, he is letting you do the lion’s share of the work.
This is not a good sign. Guys typically like the hunt.
That is how they are wired biologically.
When he is no longer hunting, he is not at his best.
He is basically going through the motions.
This indicates a lack of true interest.
When a guy is really interested in a girl, he will hunt.
He will work hard to impress her.
A lot of that has to do with taking the initiative and texting her.
If you are the one primarily doing all the texting, he is not hunting.
If he is not hunting, he is not hungry.
Again, he may respond to your advances but he will do very little to move it along.
He won’t put that much effort.
You have to decide whether you are okay with this.
The lack of effort on his part may become something that gets even worse with time because he may get used to doing it.
You may think that as long as you show interest and text, he will eventually come around.
Unfortunately, in cases like this, the guy will just remain passive unless you force his hand.
In essence, he is like a sleeping tiger.
One of the best ways to force his hand is to stop initiating the texts.
He will notice that you are missing and will begin to wonder or worry about why that is.
He may get into hunting mode at this point and start taking initiative by texting you first.
It takes courage for you to do this but if you want him to start coming after you, you may have to force his hand and show him that you are worth hunting.
Hence, you will have to take that chance.
The danger of not taking the chance is that you will keep yourself in this predicament for an undetermined amount of time.
He may get so used to rarely texting you that he will just start looking at that as the norm.
Even though months and months have gone by, he may still remain in this kind of mindset.
Meanwhile, during all these months that have gone by, you have been the one putting out the majority of the effort in texting him first, thereby increasing the risk of you becoming more and more emotionally invested in him.
Once you go this far and really become emotionally invested in him, you are now putting yourself at risk of ending up with a broken heart because those feelings will most likely not be reciprocated by him.
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