Yes, it is best to get the fact that you cheated on him off your chest now, and face the consequences, than taking the risk of your boyfriend finding out on his own.

I know that it is hard to come to terms with doing something this risky.

Nevertheless, by not doing it, you are carrying this burden and knowledge with you in your relationship.

That is difficult to do, especially as your feelings for your boyfriend get stronger and stronger over time.

Telling your boyfriend that you cheated is not solely about coming clean.

It is also about coming clean to yourself.

Doing this enables you to face what you did head on and deal with it.

When you stay quiet about it, you are still wrestling with it and there is a risk that you do it again.

It’s akin to people who keep denying that they have an alcohol problem.

The more they deny it, the more they do nothing about it.

They are basically brushing it under the rug and acting like it doesn’t exist.

As a result, their alcoholism gets worse until it reaches a point where they have no choice but to admit that it is a problem.

By now, it is too late or it has become that more difficult to overcome it.

If they had addressed it earlier on, it would have been a lot easier for them to deal with it and try to overcome it.

Never emulate a person like this.

The sooner you tell your boyfriend that you cheated, the sooner you can work on healing yourself.

You are afraid that the relationship will end if you were to tell him that you cheated.

However, you mustn’t dwell on this fear.

It paralyzes you from taking action.

The truth is, you don’t know how your boyfriend is going to take this.

Yes, he is going to be hurt, but it doesn’t mean that the hurt is sure to lead to the dissolution of your relationship with him.

Your focus has to be on getting this out in the open, so that you get to begin the process of dealing with this as a unit.

As I mentioned earlier, it would be a lot worse if your boyfriend were to find out that you cheated from someone else.

Finding out that you cheated in this manner is so much harder to grapple with.

Whether someone in the know tells him about it, or he learns through a different channel, you risk exacerbating his reaction to it by not telling him about it firsthand.

By hearing about it directly from you, he is going to be upset about the cheating at first, but in time, he takes the fact that you told him directly into account, and gives you credit for that.

Again, the sooner you do this, the better.

Focus on what must be done and not on what the repercussions will be, as you have no real control over that.

All you have control over is in telling him.