A guy that is scared of attachment is dealing with internal issues from his past that are far-reaching and unresolved.

He has had romantic relationships in the past that were unhealthy.

Those relationships are emotionally and verbally abusive.

He was left with a lack of self-worth due to those relationships.

His childhood is a probable factor in his behavior too.

A childhood of abuse has a negative effect on his ability to bond with people.

A guy who was treated cruelly by family members or physically abused by them leads to a fear of attachment.

A family member who wasn’t physically present in his life as a child has the same effect of making him scared of attachment.

This family member who wasn’t physically present was unavailable to show him what love and attachment meant.

A guy’s history has much to do with his fear of attachment.

This is where his mental capability to form attachments with people is negatively impacted.

He struggles to establish and maintain lasting friendships with his peers.

He is picky in who he chooses to befriend, and avoids getting too close to whoever he does choose to befriend.

Keeping all of this in mind, avoid putting the blame for his fear of attachment on yourself.

To overcome this issue, he has to be ready to work on himself.

Romantic partners are prone to making the mistake of believing that they are enough to get their partner out of said partner’s fear of attachment.

They throw so much love and attention on the guy in the hopes that this gets him to become less afraid of attachment.

Unfortunately, this only results in the guy becoming that much more scared of attachment and less comfortable with you.

Instead, encourage him to work on himself.

You can’t do the work for him.

To encourage him to work on himself, support him to do a pastime.

He has to to do what makes him feel accomplished.

Help him find a passion or observe if he has a passion for anything.

This is what you are going to use to help him work on himself.

Encourage him to get better at it or work on it.

Don’t let him get into the habit of letting go of a passion entirely on account of him being in a relationship with you.

This is what so many guys do.

Don’t let him.

The more he works on something that he is passionate about, the happier he becomes.

After a while, take the liberty to partake in that passion with him from time to time.

The more you do this, the closer he gets to you, being that you are engaging in activities he has a true passion for.

At this stage, he is trusting you more.

While in these environments, get close to him from time to time.

Touch him and hold him briefly now and then.

Then get back to the hobby.

As time goes on, his body language is going to reciprocate your gestures.

He is consistently touching you, and physically getting closer.

By now, you have gotten him to lower his guard and get comfortable.

This behavior eventually manifests itself outside of these environments.

It crosses over into environments where you are together just hanging out, and not doing anything in particular.

Once this happens, he is no longer scared of attachment and is fully comfortable with you.