The problem with being the rebound girl is that your partner didn’t spend a good amount of time getting to know you, and date you, before making you his girlfriend.
He made you his girlfriend out of a deficiency in his own life that he was attempting to wipe away.
The faster he does this, the quicker he gets to avoid any accountability for this deficiency.
He didn’t want to face his issues head on.
Instead, he wanted to sweep them under the rug and use you as a buffer of sorts.
In doing this, he didn’t approach his relationship with you sincerely.
He came at it through desperation and fear.
The idea that getting into a relationship with you keeps him from having to deal with whatever emotional issues his previous relationship caused, is his entire motivation.
Under these conditions, it is unlikely that you as the rebound girl will win, given that all you really are is a temporary replacement and fix.
Unfortunately, you are a small band aid on a wound he sustained from a previous relationship that is sure to continue bleeding out.
Being the rebound girl means that your own emotional needs take a backseat to his.
He got into a relationship with you in the first place based on how your presence facilitated in covering up his emotional turmoil.
Keeping this in mind, it is unlikely that your own emotional needs will matter all that much to him.
Steer clear of leading yourself on in thinking that as he gets to know you, he falls in love with you and you win.
Well, he never got into a relationship with you due to your dazzling personality.
He got into it to either cover up his emotional pain from his previous relationship and not have to deal with it, or to avoid being alone.
This made you an easy target.
With this motivation, your personality is the last of his concerns.
Sadly, he is using you as a filler at this time, until he figures out where he wants to go in his life and who with.
It won’t be with you.
Being that you are nothing but a rebound, he is intensely susceptible to taking back this ex that he recently broke up with, in the event she asks to come back to his life.
This puts you on the back burner.
As a rebound girl, your level of importance is irrelevant, which makes it that much easier for him to go right back to his ex.
If you choose to continue being the rebound girl, be conscious of your emotions.
The longer you stay with this guy, the more susceptible you are to falling in love with a guy who doesn’t have the emotional availability to do the same.
This is where you end up getting yourself seriously hurt, as your fruitless attempts to get him to return your affection are met with nonchalance and anger.
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