Sadly, the feeling of disgust when a guy starts to like you is the consequence of a negative experience from a previous relationship that impacted you emotionally, psychologically, and viscerally.
Whether it be a previous relationship, or guys you have encountered in your life as a whole, there is emotional angst within you.
There is a facet to your history that has made you look at guys, and yourself, negatively.
Look back on your life.
Somewhere in your past is an experience that has affected your outlook on life and relationships.
The disgusted reaction you have when a guy starts to like you stems from preconceived notions of what this guy likes and what his motives are.
Unfortunately, you have created these preconceived notions based on no substantive evidence or proof.
You only have your past to draw from, and since this guy who has started to like you wasn’t a part of your past, you have nothing to realistically judge him with.
This is why you must be careful when a disgusted feeling dominates your consciousness whenever a guy starts liking you.
Remember, you don’t know where this guy is coming from.
He is not a guy from your past.
He is a totally different person.
Being disgusted at him based on your past romantic relationships or life experiences isn’t fair on him and on yourself.
When we take on the blame for a relationship that failed in the past, we make ourselves fearful of future relationships.
This fear stems from not wanting to go through yet another failure of a relationship.
The truth is, a failure in a past relationship doesn’t mean that you were fully to blame.
After all, a relationship is a two-way street.
There is enough blame to go around when a relationship fails.
This is why you have to avoid letting a painful breakup influence how you look at future relationships.
Due to the amount of pain that you experienced, and a reluctance to ever go through that pain again, you create a defense mechanism.
In your case, it would be to make yourself feel disgusted the moment you sense that a guy is starting to like you.
Once you feel that feeling of disgust, your mind automatically forces shuts you off from developing feelings for this guy, so as to safeguard you from emotional pain.
That feeling of disgust is a defense mechanism that makes you aware of what is going on, encouraging you to quickly put up your defenses.
This blocks your mind from getting emotionally involved with this guy, and keeps your protective wall up.
When this happens, you have made a prejudgment on a guy of whom you know nothing about.
This was a guy that had the potential to have given you a completely different and much more positive experience than you have had in your past relationships, but your internal defense mechanism jeopardized any of this from occurring.
The sooner you start opening up to new guys who show a liking to you, the sooner you get over this emotional hurdle and find happiness with someone.
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