In a context where you haven’t been communicating with her all that much, or haven’t been consistent with your communication, it’s best to message her rather than wait for her to do something first.

In the initial stages of dating, girls want the guy to do the bulk of the initiating.

Initiating communication enlightens her on how serious you are about her, and makes her feel desired, which is a great start.

If you have been sending sporadic messages, she isn’t entirely sure of your motives.

To this end, she plays it safe by not being as forthcoming with messaging you.

Needless to say, you have to be proactive when courting a girl.

Using a strategy of waiting for her to do something, is to your detriment.

You are going to be waiting for an infinitely long time.

As a girl, she wants you to show her that you are interested in her, and to determine this, she observes how frequently you message her.

This being said, you shouldn’t keep messaging her if you have been putting out a lot of effort in doing so in the past few weeks, and she barely reciprocates, or takes too long to get back with you.

She has to be playing her part in tandem for a courtship to work.

If she expects you to be doing the majority of the initiating, she should be responding in a timely fashion to your messages.

This is how she plays her part in demonstrating that she is interested in you too.

If she hasn’t been responding in a timely fashion, purely getting back with you when she feels like it, almost as though you are an inconvenience in her life, you shouldn’t message her.

In this scenario, you mustn’t wait for her to do something.

This lackadaisical behavior is a potent indication that she is not interested in you, or is playing games.

Look back on how it has been going thus far, and ask yourself whether it seems like you have been putting out so much effort, and she has been barely responding to those efforts.

Should that be the case, and you feel as though you have been pushing a big rock up a mountain, it’s time to abandon your correspondence with her and move on.

Too many guys get so caught up in wooing a girl that they don’t see what is right in front of them.

She tricks him by giving him a few crumbs of hope here and there by being flirtatious and playful.

In truth, he is fighting an uphill battle to have a meaningful and extended conversation with her, or get her to go out on a date with him, and this is superfluous.

He hears excuse after excuse.

She tells him that she will be there for the date, but doesn’t show up.

Amid all this, he continues anyway, holding to those fleeting moments when the girl was responsive to his messages.

Don’t be this guy.

Assess your situation with this girl.

Evaluate how much effort you have been putting out, versus how much she has been giving back.

Based on this, you have enough information to ascertain whether you should continue wooing this girl, or move on.