Regrettably, you have had a bad experience with a previous relationship partner that negatively affected you.

You haven’t recovered from the negative effect of this previous relationship.

This goes against how much you have been telling yourself that you have recovered from it.

While in that previous relationship, you believed that there was a healthy future ahead of you, but the relationship never turned out as you envisioned.

As a result of your history, you now have a lack of trust in people and you have blocked them out from your circle of trust.

The only people that you have in this circle of trust are those that helped you get through that difficult breakup.

You surround yourself with them to the extent that they become your safety net.

Your mind has told you that those are the only people that you can trust, as they were there for you when you needed them the most.

This is how your mind tricks you into believing that there is no one out there that you can now trust.

Being that you don’t trust anyone outside of this circle, your mind consequently shuts itself out from becoming attracted to anyone.

You struggle to accept the idea of being attracted to anyone anymore, fearful of getting hurt again.

Your mind acts as a defense mechanism so that you avoid the pain.

If all you are doing is avoiding the hurt, you are going to be extremely cautious about who you allow yourself to be attracted to.

Being that you don’t trust yourself to not make the same mistake again, you decide to not let anyone in.

After all, you let the last person in, and he hurt you tremendously.

You don’t want a repeat of this.

In keeping yourself from getting attracted to anyone, a part of your psyche is protecting you from getting yourself in a similar situation where you go through this pain again.

This is what happens when you have gone through a difficult breakup.

Unfortunately, you don’t look at yourself as attractive anymore.

As far as you are concerned, life’s struggles have beaten you down and you don’t believe that you are physically appealing.

You are stressed out over the ups and downs of life, and have gained weight.

Life hasn’t been smooth-sailing of late.

A friend, colleague or family member recently insulted you, and you have taken what they said so personally that this has added to a perception that you aren’t attractive.

To make things worse, you aren’t attracting the people who have the potential to make you get excited about romance again.

All of this adds to your increasing belief that you aren’t attractive.

It’s natural for a person who doesn’t believe they are attractive to no longer be attracted to people around them.

This deficit in self-esteem seeps into every facet of your life, including your love life.

When you don’t feel attractive, you don’t feel worthy of being with anyone.

This makes it harder for you to open yourself up to becoming attracted to anyone.