When your boyfriend is choosing not to do stuff for you that he used to do for his ex-girlfriend, he wants his experiences with you to be different from what he had with his ex-girlfriend.

He doesn’t want to do stuff for you that he used to do for his ex-girlfriend, so as not to continue bringing his ex back to memory.

Basically, he wants to move on.

You are a new relationship and he wants to approach it differently, looking at you as someone unique and different who deserves better treatment.

In this scenario, your boyfriend thinks he is doing right by you in not doing stuff for you that he used to do with his ex-girlfriend.

Ask yourself why you want him to do the same stuff for you.

If it is a case where your boyfriend is neglecting you and barely giving you affection, it is understandable that you would want that.

As far as you are concerned, he gave his ex-girlfriend far more attention and affection than he is giving you.

There is nothing wrong with wanting more attention and affection in a relationship.

But, if this has nothing to do with attention and affection, and your motivation is based on wanting to be given the same treatment strictly for the sake of it, without any bearing on what a relationship requires to be viable and sustainable, think again.

Demanding that he do the same stuff for you as he did his ex-girlfriend, runs a risk of pushing him away.

Remember, it is likely that he wants to do things differently with you.

With this as his goal, he wants to treat you as a totally separate and entirely unique individual.

If he were to do the same stuff for you as he did his ex-girlfriend, he is going to struggle to differentiate you from his ex-girlfriend as time goes on.

Is this what you want?

The healthier approach is to not want your boyfriend to look at you as he would his ex-girlfriend.

A boyfriend that looks at you as a photocopy of his ex-girlfriend is inclined to believe that his relationship with you is headed in the same direction.

She is his ex for a reason.

Why would you want him to look at you as he did his ex?

As I stated earlier, his ex is his ex for a reason.

A guy that looks at you as similar to his ex is liable to entertain unsavory memories of said ex-girlfriend as he is in a relationship with you.

This plants the seed in his mind that you are going to become like his ex in behavior and temperament down the road.

Once you reach this summit with him in the relationship, he doesn’t see you as a uniue individual anymore, he sees his ex-girlfriend.

Needless to say, he didn’t do all that stuff for his ex-girlfriend out of a desire to do them.

He did that stuff to appease her.

By imposing your will to get him to do stuff for you that he used to do for his ex-girlfriend, you force him to do stuff for you that he doesn’t want to.

Now he is doing stuff for you to strictly please you, which leaves him unhappy.

This unhappiness is familiar.

It was the unhappiness he encountered with his ex-girlfriend that led him to ending his relationship with her.

Is this what you want?

As long as he is treating you with love and respect, let him treat you in his own unique fashion.

This keeps your relationship with him from becoming a copy of his previous one that ended badly.