When you have only had a handful of dates with her, you are better off avoiding bringing flowers to her at work.
She wants to have more time to get to know you and get comfortable with you beforehand.
Being forced to answer questions from coworkers about who the flowers came from puts her in a precarious position.
This is too premature for her.
For someone who doesn’t want to be placed in this position so early in your relationship with her, you end up angering or irritating her.
At this stage, bringing flowers to her at work is too risky.
This is the stage where you are building your rapport together and getting to know each other better.
It is not necessary to make it more than what it is at this time.
Bringing her flowers this early is worrisome, as it implies that the relationship is more than what it is at this time.
In other words, she is thinking that you are already claiming her as your girlfriend.
This gives her the impression that you are controlling or needy.
There is no need to make her feel like this at this time.
If things have been going well between you, don’t jeopardize the momentum by being too presumptuous.
By bringing her flowers this early, you are going against the current of your relationship with her, forcing it into a serious direction too soon.
You were already on a path toward success, but you have now messed it up by acting too soon.
I know that you are hyper-excited about this girl, and you have had great dates with her so far.
Notwithstanding, it is critical to remember that you never want to get carried away with someone you are still in the very early stages of getting to know.
You don’t know her well enough to get this excited about her.
The danger of your emotions getting the best of you at this time, is in how it creates what you believe she is as a person in your mind.
Based on having a few great dates with her, you draw the conclusion that she must be the most pleasant or kindest person in the world.
However, you don’t know that for sure.
You are making this assumption based on a date or a handful of dates.
She may be something totally different from what you have experienced.
Further interaction with her is required, to get a better idea on who she is as a person.
In letting your current excitement to get the best of you, you create stories about her in your head that aren’t true.
Upon getting into a relationship with her, you discover that she wasn’t who you thought she was, and regret never having given the dating process the time to weed things out.
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