Heartbreak hurts so much because you had so much hope for the relationship.

In your mind, this was a relationship that would finally take you to a happy place in your life.

You were so right for each other.

You didn’t want to permit any doubt in your mind that this wasn’t so.

Nothing was going to mess this up.

You become so emotionally attached to the outcome that you hope occurs, you cast a blind eye to elements about the person that should have drawn up a red flag.

This person has to be perfect after all.

He makes you feel so good.

Forget about the fact that he seems to have anger issues, or rarely listens to what you have to say.

You bank on him eventually coming around.

The hope is that he learns to temper his anger, and pays closer attention to what you have to say.

You keep focusing on what you want to believe, but ultimately, everything about him that you have been ignoring comes to light.

It has now become a problem that you can’t overcome.

The relationship is now over and you are going through heartbreak that hurts so much.

This happens to people when they are so in love.

They put the blinders on.

By so doing, they keep the relationship going.

As they keep the relationship going, they are becoming more and more emotionally involved in someone that they shouldn’t be with.

You saw the red flags all along.

You chose to ignore them.

This is one of those outcomes that you have to draw a meaningful and helpful lesson from.

To increase your chances of avoiding further heartbreak in the future, be cognizant of those red flags.

If there is something about your partner that is giving you pause, it should be addressed before you fall deeper and deeper for someone who hurts you in the end.

As human beings, we have a habit of placing the responsibility for our entire happiness on our partners.

When you do this, you are putting yourself in a precarious and dangerous position.

Relying on your partner to be the provider of your happiness, rubs you of your own sensed of self-worth.

Your partner is only a human being.

He is susceptible to temptation and is flawed.

He isn’t immune from hurting you as a consequence of the overbearing responsibility that is apparent, when he is solely in charge of making you happy.

As a human being, he is going to have his good and bad days.

Inevitably, he ha a meltdown due to outside stress or pressure.

Where are you then?

This person that you are dependent on for your happiness is not happy with himself.

Now, you are in a tough position.

Here comes the heartbreak and the hurt.

Never rely on your partner to be your sole source of happiness.

Be mindful of this.