Although you believe you messed up on the third date, you mustn’t lose yourself in what you think you did or said wrong.

You are so into this girl that you are worried that there was something you said or did wrong.

This are your insecurities messing with your mind.

When a person likes someone a whole lot, they become overly anxious.

They read too much into specific occurrences from the third date, and believe that those occurrences were bad when they weren’t.

Is this you?

You want to do right by this girl so badly, you are interpreting the worst out of that third date.

She didn’t show you the same energy or excitement on the third date, as she did the first or second.

You look at this after the fact and decide that you messed up.

You draw the conclusion that you must have done something wrong on that third date.

And this is what led to her deficit in energy and enthusiasm that was so present on the first and second date.

This isn’t necessarily the case.

It’s feasible that she was nervous or anxious in those first two dates, and overcompensated for that by being too energetic.

She was doing this so as not to come off as nervous.

She was hiding the nerves by showing excitement, hoping to prevent you from observing that her hands were shaking, or her voice was about to break at certain moments.

Now that she made it to a third date with you, she is substantially more comfortable.

She is coming back down to her normal temperament.

The girl you got on the third date was who she really is.

She got rid of the nerves and is now being herself.

This is why you shouldn’t immediately cast judgment about how your third date went.

If you ask her out on a fourth date and she agrees, she is clearly showing that you didn’t mess up.

Avoid getting too carried away with self-doubt.

Rather, continue the dating process of courting her by asking her out on a fourth date.

On the flip side, if you did mess up on that third date, and you know that you did because she reflected that through her body language, use this as a lesson.

Were you too aggressive?

Did this lead to a negative response from her?

Did you introduce a topic of discussion that made her physically and mentally uneasy?

Did you bring her to an event that she absolutely detested without clearing that with her first?

Learn from this experience by not making the same mistakes again with future girls that you go on dates with.

Is there a chance that this girl comes around and still wants to date you?

If she was that unhappy with the third date, it is unlikely.

However, don’t look at this as a total loss.

Look at it as a learning moment.

Moving forward, you know what to avoid doing on a date, and this leads to success in dating.