You are expecting too much when you never acknowledge what you and your partner have already accomplished in the relationship.

Instead of appreciating what you have accomplished together thus far, you are too stuck on what the next best thing is.

This is a killer of happiness.

This mindset prevents you from enjoying an activity in the moment, given that your mind is already on what you should be doing next.

There is nothing wrong with wanting the relationship to grow.

Nevertheless, temper your expectations.

If you are constantly chasing the next high in your relationship, you are never thankful for your relationship, and how well it is doing right now.

As a added effect, your partner gets the impression that he is not doing right by you.

Next thing your partner knows, he is on a new mission with you, and barely got to enjoy the last one.

Over time, this becomes overwhelming.

Put a stop to this.

You are preventing yourself and your partner from appreciating the now.

In lieu of this, your head is consistently living in the future, which keeps it from appreciating what your partner is doing for you in the moment.

This philosophy stifles a relationship, stretching it thin.

Take it easy, and exist.

Be present.

Let your relationship progress and flow naturally.

When you expect too much from your relationship, you are inclined to force it toward a direction pf your expectations too prematurely.

This isn’t beneficial to yourself or your partner.

In essence, it is a selfish move.

You are so caught up in where you want the relationship to go, it becomes all about getting to that destination regardless.

If you haven’t considered what your partner wants, you are acting from a place of selfishness.

It isn’t certain that your partner has the same expectations as you do.

Although he is open to compromising on certain things, he isn’t on all of them.

With this in mind, if you are making this move without considering what your partner wants, you strain the relationship.

This easily leads to the dissolution of the relationship.

You are left with a sense of dissatisfaction.

This dissatisfaction persists into your next relationship.

Then the cycle continues all over again, being that you are so obsessed with reaching this ideal.

This is where you fail over and over again, so influenced by your selfishness, you forget about the importance of each partner’s wants in a relationship.

Don’t mislead yourself into thinking that the ideals that you espouse are the norm, based on the relationships you have witnessed outside of yours.

This is a trap.

Your relationship is unique to you and your partner, and forcing it to mirror outside relationships is harmful.

What works in outside relationships have no bearing on what works within your own unique relationship.

You and your partner have your own unique quirks and idiosyncrasies that aren’t present in outside relationships.

Stick to what works within your relationship, not what you see in outside relationships.

With this mindset, you never run the risk of expecting too much from this relationship.