Take the time to determine how you feel about your ex and what you candidly want out of this.

This means that you first have to come to terms with that before anything else.

What are you feeling for your ex?

Are you constantly thinking about your ex?

Do you obsessively wonder whether your ex is dating someone, or whether you will ever get back together?

If your ex is constantly in your thoughts, you still love or care for your ex.

Now, even with this realization or knowledge, you shouldn’t automatically text your ex on impulse.

Think about the person your ex is.

Are they caring?

Do they compromise?

Did they work hard in a futile attempt to make the relationship work?

Your ex’s temperament is relevant.

When you don’t consider your ex’s temperament, you get caught up in your own feelings, and what you desire.

This leads to you texting your ex back, desperately wanting them back into your life.

This is done without thoroughly thinking it through.

You reacted.

When you just react, you are not giving yourself the latitude to be rational and prudent.

You are better off not texting your ex when you take into account that he was a player and not so caring of you.

You are better off not texting your ex when you remember that the reason why you broke up in the first place had to do with his reluctance to give you attention or affection.

Is this what he was like when you were in a relationship with him?

Should this be the case, you mustn’t let how much you miss him, cloud your judgment about texting him.

As human beings, we have a tendency to get lost in our desires and emotions.

While lost, we find ways to justify why we should reconnect.

Deep within, we know this isn’t the right move, being that this was an ex that never cared about making the changes required to make the past relationship work.

Instinctively, you know this ex you won’t change.

After all, you gave this ex multiple chances to change and be better while in the relationship and they failed every time.

Keeping this in mind, your objective has to be that you remain rational and not be too quick to react.

Texting your ex is only ever in your best interest when you realize that you were primarily at fault for what led to the failure of the first relationship.

Since then, you have learned a lot since then and believe you have grown into a much better person.

With this accomplishment, you think that you would do much better as a partner with a second go at it.

Additionally, texting your ex makes sense when you realize that the past relationship was never given the time to develop properly.

You got impatient, expecting it to move at a better pace, instead of letting it develop naturally.

This hastiness jeopardized the potential of creating a bond.

There is now a realization that you were too quick to judge him over minor issues and never had the patience to talk to him about these issues as they arose.

Looking back, you believe that some potential was lost.

In these circumstances, it’s warranted to text your ex.

Nevertheless, don’t get ahead of yourself.

Your ex has to believe what you do, and be just as willing to go at it again.