If you are questioning whether you are ready to date, it may honestly be because you aren’t.
Sometimes, we are better off when we internalize and draw from what our thinking is telling us.
There is a reason why you may have this notion.
Perhaps you feel that you aren’t mentally ready.
Maybe there are some emotional issues that you are dealing with.
Perhaps you feel that you aren’t financially ready to date.
Perhaps you feel that you haven’t reached a certain level of accomplishment in life that would warrant dating.
Regardless of what your reasoning is, there is clearly a problem.
Your best bet is to be honest with yourself and understand what it is that your mind and body is telling you.
If there is something deficient in your life that needs to be worked on, don’t be afraid to go for it.
However, you also have to be very cognizant of something else.
Sometimes, you may have everything in good order.
You may be “seemingly” emotionally available. You may have financial security. You may have the social and career status that is exemplary and worthy. However, even with all this, you still question if you are ready to date or not?
In a scenario like this, there is something else that is holding you back that you may be trying to hide or deny.
It may be fear.
You may be honestly worried that if you were to start dating, you would fail. It wouldn’t be failure based on not having accomplishments or not being viable. It would be failure based on the feeling that you simply wouldn’t know how to make it work.
Perhaps you feel that you would mess things up by saying something that turns her off.
It could even be the fear that you haven’t done enough with your life, when clearly you have.
This is when you really enter a very difficult and cautious territory.
You are essentially hampering yourself from dating for fear of failure. You have become the judge and jury on your dating life before there has actually been an outcome.
When you approach dating in this way, you are making a very poignant and egregious mistake.
You can’t do this.
You don’t know how the date will go.
You don’t know how this person is going to react to you.
When you make a prejudgment, you block yourself from any future success in dating.
Is this what you want?
Do you want to set yourself up for failure even before you have gone on an actual date?
If you want to date, this is not the approach you should take.
You are ready to date when you know that you are emotionally ready to take that leap.
If you believe that you don’t have the status required for the date, who’s to say that you don’t?
You have no idea what your dating prospect looks for in a potential partner.
The danger of having all these assumptions of what you must have or be before entertaining the idea of dating someone is that you may end up dating no one.
You get so caught up in all of the requirements that you have actually set for yourself that you forget that your date may honestly have other ideas about what they would look for in a mate.
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